sorry my four year old thought he should have something to say about this............

hello Mr. Wondering...we have pushed the boundries but only within the confines of our own bedroom(ie: light bdsm for example). The only thing I can think of we have had arguments about him going to strip clubs (about twice a year) when he's on buisness trips. I have told him many many times I don't like him to go to these places but I did decide to go with him to see what they were like. I guess I figured if I joined him he wouldn't go without me..but I didn't feel good about it. I did keep quiet for awhile because he enjoyed it so much..I just wanted to be his 'fantasy woman'. I can see my mistake of encouragement now. Thats why I feel partially at fault.

I did finally tell him that I dont like to go with him and I didn't want him to go for any reason(buisness or otherwise). He promised he wouldn't go anymore but over the summer I found a charge to a club on the credit card and he was out all night(I couldn't reach him by phone)and he said he did it to entertain customers. This is the reason for my trust issues with him.

So maybe its a betrayl problem and a major communication problem. I should have seen it coming, but I'm very awake to it now.

You have not offended me in anyway. You have only helped me take a closer look at the nature of my wrongs. thank you..I have alot to think about.

can you seek out church counsel in this issue..

ark