***This is so out of character for me that it's eating me up. But for my daughter's sake I will give it my best.***

Join the crowd, Grove -- there are a lot of us here in the same boat. Just try not to get discouraged when it seems to have no effect at first. What she really needs is to hit bottom and it usually takes Plan B for that -- but you can still give it a try by not, as you say, enabling her single-girl behavior.

Hang in there. What have you got to lose, except your daughter's family?
Mulan

Me, BW
WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.