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New OW discovered ...she came into the picture while I was in plan B. Supposedly she and my WH have plans for next weekend. She works with him and had no idea he was married. They came to our home and did the deed. Thus the condoms from my previous post!
I called her and she said she was supposed to come over this evening. (...while I worked late.) Surprise! I decided to come home early...found her number on his cell and called it. She's coming over anyway...as if we never spoke.
God! I am shaking!
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D-day: 3/13/05 EA/PA
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Oh good grief...
how very very horrible for you..
please consider what is really best for you...
Can you go somewhere and just stay for a few days..go dark...
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My heart is pounding. The second she found out who I was she asked if she could meet up with me tonight. I told her to tell me over the phone and then she asked for my email address and she forwarded some of his emails immediately....I just read them. She said all either of them wanted was just sex...but she said if she knew he was married she would never have even hung out with him.
I don't know what to do.
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D-day: 3/13/05 EA/PA
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{{newlywed55}} Yikes another dday. Like you needed that!
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
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Ark ---
I think this is my only option. I think I'm done. I asked him specifically if there was anything with anyone else while we were apart. He said no...not even a kiss. I didn't believe him but was willing to move past that.
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D-day: 3/13/05 EA/PA
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That does explain why you felt there was more to the bday story. No wonder he didn't support you going. I am soooo soooo sorry.
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Copy those e-mails and do not let him know you have them. Good evidence. Tell him his OW called you and told you everything. Then tell him to get ck'd out for infections. Dam this is awful. I am so sorry for you.
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OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{NW55}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Breath girl...breath....you can do this.
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She'll be here soon. My palms are sweating. WH is napping...in his underwear no less. Boy he's gonna be shocked.
Breathe....breathe....in....out.....
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Thats Ok let him be shocked. He really is gonna be sorry now. Remember you have done nothing wrong here. He is the one who has done the wrong duing. So relax take a deep breath and let him deal with his own mess.
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just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
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I can hardly wait for this one. Remember to be very, very calm, and cold as ice. Your husband is putting your through all of the B-day crap, and still cheating. I say enjoy the confrontation and then DUMP IS NASTY [censored].
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I'm with believer. Throw him out he can go to his sister's.
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I think you should just leave...
let him answe the door..
and you be gone..
NO WHERE TO be FOUND...
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just get out and be done with the sick chaos........
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Oh while he is talking with OW you might want to pack him a bag and throw it out the door and tell him to follow it out. Then go and take money out of atm for yourself.
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Second thought I'm with Ark -get out now and go to ATM take out $$$$$$$ all of it. and go to a friends or family
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I agree with Ark and realtor. This "man" needs to know you respect yourself.
Beat feet to the ATM. Worry about the consequences later.
OH yeah, take some pictures of his sorry @ss when she shows up!
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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BE SAFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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bump - how are you -are you OK????????????
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(((((NW)))))
I am so sorry this has happened. Are you ok?
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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