Brown are you still on there?

Just thought you truly did NOT want this marriage to this man anymore, so you were patiently enduring the final insult to walk away without standing up for yourself?

Or did you go to the kitchen??

I agree with calling a spade a spade if you want your marriage.

Brown what you doing??

They aren't worth the time and energy of firing neurons.

according to your beliefs a marriage is over when someone says over..
I just don't happen to believe that............
cause many marriages would be off on off on off on...on a daily basis..............
[color:"blue"]Not in my case. I wouldn't say such a thing lightly, or in anger, only if I mean it.[/color]
it's a legal contract and a Godly contract...
and it needs to be legally ammended
and in my opinion dealt with on a Godly level as well..
[color:"blue"]Legal contracts have been constructed over time and history to regulate inheritances/business/finances. The true contract to me is the emotional protection/respecting etc.[/color]

I am saying my vows hold meaning till no longer legally binding.....inspite of my spouses actions...
that for me I would continue to honor and respect my own vows till done for real......
not change their meaning to serve some other needs...
[color:"blue"]I have continued to honor and respect MY own vows regardless of H's actions, even now.[/color]

you stand to offer your husband a glimpse in to something greater and noble....
just by example if nothing else....

he is already confused and lost to what fidelity and respect etc... means...
and you assist in the continuance of his lostness by accepting his bad choices and behavior in to YOUR world...
that six months ago when in the thick of things fidelity meant something to you...
now not so much...
it will only add to his fogginess
[color:"blue"]I can do no more than tell H his behavior is hurtful and disrespectful. I have set my boundaries by getting out of this M.[/color]

actually I would even argue that agreeing to meet with new girlfriends...sends a mixed message of the value of your and his marriage....
[color:"blue"]Like I said.. to me, the M is over.[/color]

experts say that people need a year to really process and mourn the loss of a marriage...

three girlfriends ....
and you being friends with them..in my opinion diminishes the sanctity of what you marriage either was or could have been..
[color:"blue"]I wanted to know what last GF (not the others) was like: mostly for my own protection in future confrontations about finances etc. Do you think that wasn't a wise move? [/color]
too disposable
too replacable


if marriage to you really was the vows...then you would have divorced the second they were broken...right??
[color:"blue"] I loved H enough to give him a second chance: but I loved myself enough not to give him a third chance. [/color]
ARK^^

I loved H enough to give him a second chance:but I loved myself enough not to give him a third chance