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Thanks for your input, Evermore, I wish you the best. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I would humbly suggest, that MANY don't like living with that solution, but ulitimately, it's the only one left.
I would disagree with this statement. It is NEVER the ONLY one left. Unless one is literally shackled and chained and being held prisoner...and then what is the natural reaction to that... To fight to get out.
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I would humbly suggest, that MANY don't like living with that solution, but ulitimately, it's the only one left.
I would disagree with this statement. It is NEVER the ONLY one left. Unless one is literally shackled and chained and being held prisoner...and then what is the natural reaction to that... To fight to get out.
committed Just like Mr. Spock said: "There are always alternatives." Mulan
Me, BW
WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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Loy,
Depression and lack of adequate therapy is certainly an important point.
I'm not a good victim. PTSD snuck up on me and nearly incapacitated me. Thank goodness I was raised and nurtured by my parents to have a solid core of self esteem. It was this that gave me the strength to seek professional help.
Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)
Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
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Hi mel,
Sorry for the confusion last night. I had to log out after my post.
Let's see. How do I clarify what I was trying to bring to the table.
I see you as a person of action. In many ways, I was the same way. Things were always black and white. There was no grey area. I see this frequently in your posts to this board. It's kind of what your thread is all about ins't it?
Since my D-Day, I've had to take a different approach. I've had to search through the grey areas to desperately understand how my FWW could so disrespect and betray our M and our trust of each other. It shattered my world, and ours, is a very long standing M of now 35 years.
I mentioned AA only because I so loved and respected my W and my family, that I fought the good fight and remained sober for 16 years. What I've discoverd from this trama, is I never really respected myself enough to do it only for me.
I guess what I was trying to say, is, why should I have the audacity to trouble an already troubled person with my problems? Don't they have enouugh on their plate already?
Keep on posting here Mel. You are a rock!
All Blessings,
J
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