GEEZ! Foggy, Foggy, Foggy.

He's gonna have to pay!! Hee, Hee.

Kim

Hi Jean, hoping things go well for you in court today. Be strong.

Lady

jean,

Good luck to you today in court.... I will be praying for you ......


Hurting

Thanks for the well wishes.

Nothing happened, he showed up without an attorney so they gave him an extra week. So we will all be inconveinced again a week from now (I hate putting on pantyhose for no reason)

My lawyer did take him off to the side to try to tak to him. All he can talk about is the "principal" of the matter regarding the vacation money - which my lawyer explained was not the issue at hand today. I made him lie to his babies because he can't take them on vacation now. Ughhh

Anyway, I did not interact with him at all. I am sure that he thinks I am just the most cold hearted b*tch around. He looks like dog doo still. I really feel sorry for him and wish we could talk like reasonable adults.

Hi Jean,

That is the mind of a WH. I'm glad your lawyer handled that one. I believe he wants that money for the lawyers (your and his). Well hopefully you and the girls will be taking a nice vacation when things get settled.

I wouldn't talk to him personally concerning the divorce/support issues now that he will be getting a lawyer. Let the issues be between the lawyers now.

Lady

In my foggy mind, I really do believe that he believes that I have made him lie to his children. If I had the means, i would buy him a gift certificate to Disney with that darn money so I could ensure that the kids get the vacation that he is so worried about.

My lawyer will just argue that I had to spend that stupid money to feed his kids for the three and half months he has been out of the house. Food and shelter are the principal that I am irritated about.

I am mentally struggling today. My mom is still here and playing with the kids.

I am glad I don't have to deal with him right now. I would be close to breaking today, just give him whatever in the heck he wants just to get this mess over with.

It is weird to see him as others must see him. He really acts like such a jacka$$ and I always made excuses for him.

Nope... Jean your not giving him his way....K



Exactly....You fight for you and the childrens needs. You have to think of the childrens future.

I know it's hard.

Lady

jean i'm sorry court didn't go well. Ehy would your H show up without an attorney?

Thanks Ladysheep

Eav, as to why he would show up without an attorney?? You don't need an attorney if you are arguing the principal of your Disney vacation - didn't you know that?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

could it be that he doesn't want any legal decisions...that he doesn't want anything even close to a divprce and he's stalling?

Eav, I think he wants this divorce more than he has wanted anything before. And now that I am not just rolling over, that is even more justification for his needing the divorce. As long as I fight with him about money and stuff, he can say, see, I have to divorce her, she is just so unreasonable.

I did hear him talking to the lawyer, and he just keeps saying "I am so tired of fighting", but the only thing we fight about is his mistress and this divorce . He makes it sound like we have been at each others throats for years. We never even fought over the last separation, I said "I want out", he said "Let me get the door for you".

Jean -

Hi - Darn. You have to go back next week? Keep that pantyhose handy. He knew good and well that he needed a lawyer. I really just don't understand your WH either.

Hope you are doing o.k. --

Kim

Ooohhh.....this is waay 2 funny. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Jean, go to court looking well coordinated, smart and cute. Then let the WS do his schtuff. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Does the WS beleive his babble? Yes, he does. Will everyone else? Only the stupid (i.e. OW) will. The rest of the world will just laugh.

Given that scenario, you will want t/b rid of the WS from your life, of course coming out ahead financially is a benefit. One the judge can assist with.

When the Ws is making an azz out of himself, make sure you catch the judge's eye. That contact will tell a lot that u both know there's a fool loose in this court and it's up to the judge to get him under control.

L.

JMHO,
L.

I left him a VM this AM asking when he would be picking up the kids.

I later get a VM back that says "I have a witness and I am saying do not contact me again other than through an attorney".

I don't know who his attorney is and neither does my attorney. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

What the heck? You ask him when he is picking up the children and he says that? Oh Boy!!! I think he's losing it! And what does he mean by witness?

Lady

Who knows, I guess someone was standing there when he called and left the voice mail.

Like I said, I called and left him a VM asking if he was getting the girls Fri or Sat. I told him to call me at my other number. He must have left the VM immediately after that on the 1st phone. So I didn't get the message for hours (I was out of the phone's range-that is why I told him which number to call me at).

I did call my attorney, they haven't heard from him. They just told me to stay close by so if he wants the kids, I can meet him. So I have to just be on standby all weekend. I do have a back up babysitter for Sunday (my work day)

Hopefully, this will give us reason to address the temporary parenting plan on the next court date. If he will not take my calls about the kid schedule, and refuses to communicate by email... Are we going to have to pay attorneys hundreds of dollars to tell me what time he can get his kids??

Oddly, this doesn't bother me. But, it has been a weird day. My transmission is going out, the car kept dying on the interstate AND I had a flat tire. It was the longest drive of my life trying to get back in town.

The car is at the shop now, keep your fingers crossed since this is my mom's car I was borrowing (mine still needs the water pump changed)

But even my kids say I didn't cuss like daddy did when we got the flat tire-so , it's all good. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Jean -

You are my hero! I would have been a basket case after a day like you had!!!!! My Gosh! He has lost it. Contact his attorney????

Hey, WH - WHO IS YOUR ATTORNEY?? I don't even think he has one yet.

You are the only sane one here.

I hope the car doesn't need any major work!!

Kim

Thanks Kim, I felt pretty good about the whole day. I am sure that the car will need major work. I will just fix whichever car is cheaper and take it out of WH bleeping vacation fund (with my attorney's approval, of course)

I started to get a tad rattled, just hearing his tone. But, good news, I guess I won't have to hear it for awhile! I have no idea when he will see the kids again. I will suggest that he pay for the kids to have their own phone since they can no longer reach him via mine.

I half expect him to come get the kids with a police escort, or maybe he will bring OW as his witness!

Sadly, police accompanying parents to kid swaps is not uncommon around here. We also have little places with supervision for people to trade off the kids - very sad indeed.

But, I got a great nights sleep last night. The girls and I were out of town. I don't realize how ansy I get at the house when he gets all fussy (WH that is). I get nervous everytime I hear a truck like his. So not having to worry about that last night was very helpful.

jean i think your H ran out and got himself an attorney right AFTER the last court appearance and he's just throwing the word around to let you know he "has one" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Well that's good-he's going to need one. Now, if I could have his name and number, perhaps the attorney and I could get things moving in a nice grown up fashion.