BINGO!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Kim

Hi Jean,


Well these things should never be rushed anyway... right.
Maybe it's best it's taking more time.

I'm glad you have the support of friends and family, that helps so much. I know it's hard when the mourning times come, but those times do get fewer and far between, eventually.

Huggs to you and the girls.

Lady

Thanks Lady and Kim for checking up on me, I appreciate your continued support.

jean,

You are doing so well. I wish in a way my D was stalled but it keeps moving forward.

I am glad you and the girls are doing so good. You will be just fine thats one thing I know for sure.

Take Care,

Hurting

Thanks Hurting. The divorce is only stalled because my WH is too lazy to participate in the process. I mistake his laziness for "being on the fence" and I get all worried that I am making a mistake.

But I just figure that this divorce will take a little while and he could stop it anytime he wanted to. I have not given him a crystal clear roadmap home, because he is just so very much in looove and he would feel pity for me for still giving a darn about him.

I went to the four hour parenting class tonight. Pretty depressing... Two men actually brought their OW's with them <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

There was a slight child care issue tonight with WH and I. I had arranged for a back up babysitter, but I gave WH first dibs on watching the kids. I was going to leave them with the back up and WH was going to pick them up when he got off work. Apparently, the girls preferred the babysitter and gave WH a hard time. So he gave me a hard time about that, saying he would prefer if I would just let him know what time he needed a babysitter and he would have been there.

I explained that to respect his boundaries that he has so sternly laid out, I am not comfortable having extended conversations with him regarding his schedule as it makes him very defensive.

It seems logical that if we could communicate with each other kindly, we could avoid these problems. But as long as he is so mad at me and crappy to me, our communication will have to be extremely brief and problems are more likely. But at least I didn't puke when I saw him, so that was progress <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Gosh, Jean, once again, I'd have to say your WH and mine are reading from the same play book! My WH is always, "None of your business," like a snotty kid when I casually ask him what he's been up to this weekend or whatever. So I quit.

I swear, there must be a manual out there for WSes... I guess they pass it out at orientation on the mother ship!

Yeah, it is odd how similar they all are, but their looove is oh so unique and no one understands <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

MIL and I were talking today about how hard it is for her to make small talk with WH. You can't ask about his relationship since it is so dirty and sordid, you can't ask about his work because he assumes everyone is a spy that just wants more child support after him. You can't talk about his apartment because he doesn't want me to know where he lives. You can't talk to him about anything, every aspect of his life is full of treachery. Must really stink to be so waywardy that no part of your life is above board.

....you have summed up my situation in a nutshell!

Yeah, maybe someday he'll come out of hiding...and remove the mud from his eyes.

It just gets silly sometimes. I ask the kids if they ate dinner with dad, for example. They say, yes and we are not supposed to tell you where because daddy doesn't want you to know how much money he is spending. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

That's funny Jean...but ridiculous! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I guess we are in the "give him enough rope and let him hang himself" stage. I just keep not causing trouble and he just keeps having to come up with weird things to justify his behavior.

He never struck me as the terribly creative type, but his affair has brought out a side of him that has a broad imagination and a flair for telling whopper stories.

It is just hard to see this. He will either realize what he has become and be disgusted, or he will just get worse and worse as he continues to justify his lies and lie about his justifications.

Yeah, that's not uncommon for WS's. It's the deception that kills em' til they don't who or what they are anymore.


Eventually he will become disgusted with himself Jean, and the affair will explode in both of thier faces, if it isn't already happening.

Lady

2 funny!!!!

Tell them to order the best foods they like when they are with their dad....then ask if they went to Taco Bell. LOL!!!

L.

OW's divorce was final yesterday. I am resisting the urge to send her a bouquet of dead flowers. Or perhaps giving my WH congrats since he is no longer banging a married woman.

How bout' a dozen dead black roses.

Don't encourage me Ladysheep! My mom is a florist, I am sure she could pull some crap out of the trash and put together something appropriate for the occasion.

Tell me - take the high road, take the high road.

Don't do it Jean....TAKE THE HIGH ROAD!!!

Pheeew, that was close. If anyone gave me permission to give into my catty side, I would really have a hard time not doing something. Of course, I would just be seen as mentally unstable and blah blah blah.