Oh good...I'm glad your re-thinking that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The day is going by soooo slow. But I have resisted the urge to send my WH a "Happy Ho's Divorce Day" message.

I do need to run a child care situation by him, but I better wait a day or so, until I feel stronger <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Jean -

I was reading your post about how you don't know where your WH lives right now!! I don't know where mine is living either!!! And I don't even know where he works anymore!!

I haven't asked though! It's all part of keeping their "OTHER" life secret, I guess.

Hope the day shaped up ok for you.....Not a day to celebrate for sure. Good job on resisting the urge to send those dead flowers although however tempting it was!

Kim

Oh I know where he lives, he just doesn't know that I know. He always accuses me of being an internet junkie, those web surfing skills have sure come in handy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Maybe that is what I'll do, send Happy Ho Divorce Day flowers to his apartment. That way he'll know I know where he is, and that I know more about his troll mistress that he does. (She won't discuss her divorce with WH <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />)

She Korean right? Here's what I found:


[color:"blue"] A superstition about the the difference in ages between a bride and bridegroom.

In Korea, when you choose your spouse, you have to be careful. If you marry someone five years difference in age, "won jin sal" will bother you. You'll fight with yur spouse every day, but you won't get divorced. And, if you marry someone six years older or younger than you are, "sang chun sal" will make you strange. You and your spouse will live happily, but you will always be beggars. As a result, many Koreans consider four years difference or seven years difference in age between the bride and the bridegroom is the best age. [/color]

[color:"green"]If you see crows or ravens when you are leaving your house in order to go to school or to your company early in the morning, it means that you will be in trouble and have bad luck all day--just for a day. [/color]

1) If you play with matches/fire, you will wet your bed.

2) If you whistle at night then a snake will come into the house.

3) If you wet your bed, you must ask your neighbors for salt.

4) If you sleep right after you eat, you will turn into a cow.

5) If you sit on a pillow, you will grow a tail.

6) If you throw your baby tooth over the roof of your house, your adult tooth will grow in straight.

7) If you are lost and you want to find your way back, spit in your hand and clap, and the direction the spit goes is where you want to go.

8) If you're a boy and you play with dolls, your maleness will fall off.

9) If you're a girl and you hold your chopsticks too close to the tip, it will take you a long time to get married.

10) The number 4 is unlucky, so their are no buildings with a 4th level. Instead the 4th floor is marked with an F or the 4th floor is skipped alltogether.

Ok, now I think you ought to send her a large bag of rock salt. LOL!!! Make that 4 bags..... deliver it on 4/4/06. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

Too Funny!

I especially loved this part:
8) If you're a boy and you play with dolls, your maleness will fall off.

Just yesterday, OD asked me if I would buy daddy a Curious George doll. She said that WH and OW read Curious George together (they read to each other <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> The kids have still not met her)

So maybe I should be a nice mommy and buy the doll for WH! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Your daughter has a sense of humor. LOL!!! I think you ought to get the OW a Mojo-Jojo doll (that's the monkey with an enlarged brain). LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> That monkey is plain evil - like the OP. LOL!!!

L.

LOL, I like the Mojo-Jojo idea. WH and OW are both monkeys in the chinese calender, so the monkey is their special thing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Here is a little funny... I have been wondering if WH is a miserable SOB to everyone, or if I am alone in that special treatment. Today, my sister and I accidentally saw WH in traffic (he had the girls with him) and WH flipped someone a "bird" and was yelling at the other driver. So I guess it is not just me that he is an [censored] to.

I did very good. I wanted to text message him and tell him not to flick birds in front of the kids, freaking him out thinking I am following him. But I resisted the urge <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

It amazes me the justification a WS will come up with. This weekend, WH gave the girls his sales pitch on how he wants to live life by the seat of his pants, see what the world throws at him, etc. He really is trying to make his affair and the divorce just one big adventure. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Sunday, he said he would meet me somewhere off the interstate since I would be passing his exit. I told him "You don't need to be inconveinenced to keep your location a seret, I have always known where you apartment is, would you like me to pick up the kids there". He sheepishly said OK. I thought it would be nice for the kids to see me in his driveway, to know that they have one less secret they have to worry about keeping for daddy.

Live life by the seat of his pants??...Oh really!! What the world may throw at him might not be too nice.



Oh good Jean...that's one less secret.

Lady

Yeah, I did chuckle to myself thinking "I'll plan my life out and you can live with whatever me and the judge throw out to you" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Jean -

I bet WH wonders what else you know about him! Good for you!!!

Kim

Heee Heee Kim,

I think WH is know perfectly aware that I know a whole lot more about his life than he probably knows. I'll never forget his anger that I was holding a copy of OW's divorce papers in my hand, but she would not tell him anything about the divorce <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I think my accomodating attitude is throwing him off for the time being. I guess he thinks I will lighten up a bit on the big picture. But for now, the kid schedule is fine, the alimony and CS is fine, the troll can't meet my kids - it's all good. His fangs will come back out as soon as he understands that my accomodating attitude will NOT extend into the divorce proceedings.

Good marriage or good divorce settlement - his choice (for now)

I am having a rough day today, a lot of anxiety. Not sure why, I am just ansy as all get out and can't get motivated.

I want to call WH and confirm one more time that he has no intentions of ever reconciling so I know to file taxes seperately. I know I am setting myself up for another big fat no. I feel the need to reach out one more time. When will I ever feel like I have done enough to save the marriage.

I want to call him, but I don't need to call him. i can handle my business and inform him of my actions should he ever inquire (and given our history of filing taxes, it could be months before he brings it up).

Will I ever feel peaceful that I have beaten this dead horse long enough?

Well, I reckon I love busted big time today. WH dropped off the kids at 5pm, dressed in church clothes. I didn't speak to him, but after he was gone, I called him. I was pretty irate and said I don't understand how you can sit in church with your adulterous wh0re. I mean, the man has never taken his children to church, but he'll take his mistress!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

UUUGGGHHH!!

Hey Jean.....wouldn't want you to talk to yourself here! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

The WS will do things that are just so out there....it is at times shocking. The WS does not really put it together. They don't think what they are doing is wrong so off to church they go! YUK!


Jean, I think you have reached out to WH plenty. But we all know that you need to get there yourself. I get the same feelings....what if I just talk to him one more time, maybe then he will get it. But, I guess unlike you, I am done hearing "I told you I don't want to get back together". I am dealing with a immature person who may or may not have started his A as he left, but is nevertheless in deep.

Unfortunately, I am at a point where I really am not convinced that I want him back. I am afraid WH is doing me a big faivor by not wanting reconsiliation, becase I may just take him up on it, and be misserable again. I worked hard on our marriage with pleanty of failures, but WH was not up for doing much and really was never my partner anyway, so I am afraid the patern would continue if for some reason he decided to come back.

Take care Jean......how are your girls doing? Do they still feel that they cannot talk to you about what goes on at WH's? How is your younger daugheter? Last time I read that she was beginning to feel some pain and moarn.....I hope she is better now....

Best to you...
Daisy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Yes, that is despicable Jean. Ooooo that would make me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> too.

Thanks Lady and Daisy.

It is not that I want WH, we don't even have that conversation anymore. I told him tonight that usually his actions don't phase me, but this church thing just blows my mind. Of course, he pointed out that it was none of my buisness, but I pointed out that the hypocrisy that my children are exposed to IS my business.

I did ask if he wanted the girls to aspire to be like OW - he didn't have an answer.

The girls are generally OK. YD is moving along in her journey. OD is doing well with the seperation, her problems mainly occur with current events.

The thought of WH and OW sitting in church together just nauseates me. I cannot understand that at all, but I am examining my thoughts on the building - the church. To me, there are just some things that you don't do in church. And anything involving your wh0re is on that list-but maybe that is just me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Hi Jean -

WS's are definitely hard to figure out. Remember, they live on the Mother Ship so they are in their own world. Glad your girls are doing good.

Kim

Thanks Kim,

OD heard my temper tantrum tonight, I am ashamed to say.

I need to find a productive outlet when this mothership drops one of those blue ice blocks of alien crap out of the sky <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />