WH called & left a message on the AM while I was out at Home Depot. Wanted to know if I called the CPA, reminded me that he needed to do emissions for the car/get tag and to tell me something about DS. Said for me to please call him.

I decided to call the designated go-between and see if WH had even called him yet. My friend (I'll just refer to him as Charlie) said that he hadn't heard from WH yet & had just left me a message wondering about it and to see how I was. Charlie wanted to know if he should call WH. I said yes, b/c he keeps calling me. I gave Charlie the answers to WH's questions & Charlie called WH. They talked for a good 45 minutes.

Charlie found out it is my Birthday tomorrow and he & his wife want to treat me out. That will be nice. Charlie also told WH that he needed to just come and move in with them for a while during this time so WH could get his mind off of $$ and focus on getting his life back together the right way. Charlie is so pro-get-us back together. He said one thing that really touched me: You and WH had the kind of M that I always wanted. Charlie is a Godsend. I am so lucky to have him as a friend. I truly believe Charlie will be an influence on WH. I know that ultimately WH will need to make this decision. Charlie said he will be praying for us and will have his prayer group pray for us.

I feel so much better. It is so great to have STRONG support like this from someone who is working both sides.

Charlie had to call WH back for me on a question. He told WH that they were taking me out to dinner. WH said "Am I invited too?"

Charlie said "No, I don't think so ......"

WH is planning on leaving my presents tomorrow here at the house w/a note asking about DS:

1 - I used to call WH every morning just before DS got on the school bus so they could chat. He wants to know if we can still do that.
Well.......I am not going to call him. I guess if WH calls I can just hand the phone to DS so they can talk. DS hasn't even asked to call his Daddy.

2 - He wants to know about afternoon time. WH used to be home to get DS at 5 PM. Now I am doing that so I can prepare dinner at a decent hour. I think I will tell him it needs to be a set schedule.

OW should be getting her copy of the Plan B letter in the mail tomorrow!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Kim

Kim, I would ask Charlie to pass on your message that WH stay out of the house. Then if he doesn't comply, you could change the locks.

Does Charlie understand the purpose of Plan B? I am somewhat concerned that his enthusiasm about getting you back together will put undue pressure on you to take him back before he is really ready? How do you feel about that? Would it help if you lent him SAA or emailed him some material from here?

You don't think that Charlie would set you up and invite WH to dinner, do you?

Wish I could be a fly on the wall when OW gets her letter. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Hurting - & this is only Day two!!!!! But at least I have avoided his phone calls today.



Mel - Thanks!!!!!!!

Oh, & I feel so much better just knowing that WH has somewhere to go when his time is up at the hotel Thursday night. Since Charlie has offered his home(and actually it is a pretty nice set up. Huge basement with part of it finished off with a bedroom and private bath. I think there is even a fridge down there.) WH is going to be living comfortably. Which really is too bad actually. He might just have it too good......

Kim

Melody -

I talked with Charlie about my intentions. I didn't explain in detail but Charlie definitely understands that I am not to SEE or SPEAK to WH. I am pretty sure I made it clear that WH must stop seeing OW before that happens.

The next time I talk to Charlie I will go over that with him again and maybe explain a bit about Marriage Builders. His first wife had an A and was re-married within a month of the D. Charlie came over to mine and WH's house the day it was final and just cried. We were the only ones to see him cry he said......

I definitely don't think Charlied would bring WH along - Charlie knows how much pain I am in.

Melody, that is a good suggestion to make sure he is aware especially since he is bringing WH into his home.





Oh, what I would give to be there when she opens and reads it!!!!!!

Kimberly

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />Happy Birthday <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
Be kind to yourself today...no "if only's"
Enjoy your time with your friends tonight and remember that there people that care for you. (In real life and MB)

Here's to a new start....>< clink....to the woman who got lemonman to eat crow!!! Enjoy your day <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Happy Birthday, Kim!!

[color:"red"] Happy, Happy Birthday Kim!! [/color]

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Thank you guys!!!!! I WILL have a GREAT Day!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Kimberly

Happy Birthday Kim Have a great evening out with your friends .... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

{{{{{{{{{{{Happy Birthday, KIM}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

((((((HAPPY BIRTHDAY KIM))))))

BLESSED BE THIS DAY FOR YOU!!

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I was thinking the same thing here....the EXACT same thing. You do NOT want to let "Charlie" rush along "natures course" here. You have already got through what many BS can't do in doing this Plan B...don't let well intentioned actions derail you.

Charlie said "He always dreamed of having the marriage you and WH had".....huh? A little perculiar. He means well, no doubt...but you better watch it here. The WH will use this friendship to weasel his way back in prematurely to get his "fixes" and stay on the fence.

Don't go there Kim, all of this pain and struggle will be for nought.

My pain is also a consideration here, as I had to eat alot of crow samiches, and my triathalon-diet trained bowels did NOT appreciate it at all..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Thanks so much for all of you wishing me a Happy Birthday!!! I had a nice dinner out with wonderful, supportive friends.

Lem & Mel - I don't think it's going to be a problem with Charlie. His wife went through the A thing with her last marriage too.... She & I had a longer conversation tonight. She described to me how her H morphed completely into another person. She said looking at the pictures of the time he looked "possessed". I talked to her some about MB & told her about the "alien/fog" thing She completely agreed.

Amazing.

Kim