Yes - WH's BIL needs to compute how much more it will cost WH then you can bargain (assuming you want the appearance of being reasonable)

You also want to see what your liability/refund will be.

Nottoday - good to see ya! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Are you the same Mr Wondering as in "The Wonderings"?

thanks for your help, all three of you.

Any advive on how to negotiate the tax talk into a MB plan? this is going to be a pretty big kick to his plans. he will see it as me standing in the way of his "happiness" again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

It would be easy if you were in Plan B. I'd just inform the BIL and leave it at that.

If you're in Plan A, that makes it tricky. Bottom line is that you have to protect yourself, and WH is not someone you can trust right now. I would probably give him the IRS letter and tell him that you will be filing your own return MFS. Tell him to contact his brother to prepare a new return for him, and that you will allow him to claim the 2 girls for 2003 and 2004 maybe that will soften the blow.

No - that guy is a real jerk. All he does is blah, blah, blah. JK - yes, I am. Just registered under my own name yesterday so we can post at the same time. We were sharing the name previously. I think she'll be changing to Mrs. Wondering soon. She wanted us to do "Peas and Carrots" with me being the "Carrot", I suppose. Maybe someday. For now I guess I'm just stuck as a junior member.



I suppose the way to incorporate this would be to not address the issue until you get your ducks in a row. Once you know the numbers then attempt to be reasonable with him and come to an agreement. You simply refuse to be put in a situation where your home and/or your future paychecks are levied for his/your joint tax obligations. The IRS does not fight fair. They may end up placing a garnishment on your wages but leave him alone completely. If he is self employed with no paycheck they will find it easier to go after you. By looking after yourself perhaps you will appear as a strong, capable, confident woman that any man would be proud to call his wife. You just have to make the appearance of reasonableness to attempt a compromise. Time is on your side as far as the liability goes so you can wait for him to comprehend his predicament and decide himself to get it done without making demands. Though it does need to get done...you can't allow him to drag his feet another year. Don't forget you will also have to file next April as well. You are setting a precedent for the difficulties he is going to have leaving you and the costs involved.

Finally, don't let him upset you or make you feel guilty for not giving him what he wants. This is his consequence for his choices. Reverse babble him, but no need to get upset.

W

Sorry I am so choppy. I am at work and constantly getting interupted by those annoying customers. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />