Well I found out she is seeing someone else now. Some guy that lives far away. My god she cant stop. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Wow this thread really speaks to me, although my situation is different.

I'm about to revisit Plan A and re-read it for more strategies.. I may start a new thread as not to hijack this one...

My STBX (D day is in 9 days) is involved with somebody long-distance and she's coming to visit in 6 days (crappy timing!)

I was the one that filed, but I've seen changes in him which have turned my heart back to him - but he's not receptive exactly right now because of this OW... but his behaviours toward me have been much kinder lately - which prompted my own change of heart.

Perhaps if I can do some intensive Plan A, regardless of how he's responding or what he's doing, it may make some progress. Sounds a bit one-sided... but I've told him how I feel - he says he still loves me, unsure if there is ever a chance for us, but "not right now" because he believes he's in love with OW.

If I can show him that I'm the better choice, perhaps there's a chance.

Or perhaps I sound desparate and pathetic... I haven't quite decided yet.

Bottom line is, he *has* made changes to the things that were huge LBs in our marriage and if my heart could change (I never thought it ever would), perhaps his can too.

Off to re-read plan A again...

H2U

Well... my H hadn't changed as much as I thought. He's still lying and now he's paying his g/f rent and not his bills.

I could plan A and B til I was blue in the face - it doesn't change who he is.

Kills me inside but I can't go back to living with an irresponsible liar, and that's what he is. Something tells me that will never change about him. Nothing as drastic as losing everything - home, family... has motivated him to change.

I did all I could. I made mistakes along the way but learned from them and moved forward. I am still very much a human work-in-progress... but I want to keep moving forward and not get dragged back down by him.

My divorce is next Wednesday. He and his girlfriend deserve each other - she's going to take him for anything and everything she can, and then I'm sure she'll dump him. While I feel a bit sorry for him - it will serve him right.

I may sound bitter - I'm not. I'm sad. Sad that my husband couldn't be a decent enough human being to save his family. Sad that he's not accoutable or responsible or even honest. Sad because I thought he was something that he clearly is not.

But I'm moving forward - and I'll survive. And I won't fall for the same garbage again.

Only you can decide what to do... each relationship is different. Me - I'd have saved it if I could have - but it takes two to do that.

H2U