Well I really did not ask where they had sex. It just came out in conversation. He really wanted me to know that the realtionship was not about sex. It was about having someone to talk to. The sex just came with it.
He played the drums at our church. She was always there telling him how great he was. Like a groupie. Her life is the pits. Single mother, two kids, drugs.
He was telling me all they ever did was hange out in her garage. She smoked alot of pot. they never went anywhere or did anything together. I had been to her house after DDay and I would not go in it was so dirty.
He said it just happened in the garage because her kids were inside in bed. The kids would get up and go get in the OW's twin bed all the time so that is why it happened in the garage in the dog bed.
I have really had a hard time with the fact that he could do it this way and how unclean she is. I do not know how to get it out of my head.
I really need help letting it go. I obsess (sp) over it all the time. When is it going to stop?
At least I came here and talked about what is going on in my head. I usually bring it up to my husband and I know it hurts him. He can not even understand how it happened.
When I ask him why he says he does not know. After all this time should he know?
God I feel for you, my wife had the affair with a 28 year old bass player in a local band. YuK!! She is 37 lol.
I saw a pic of him 2 weeks ago and made me LB HUGE!! I just lost it, the I remember I met him once in the mall about a year ago. That sucks.
She knows why she started the affair but understands that it was a huge mistake after she found out not only was he with her but trying to be with all her friends. No du!!
Good luck
Scott
