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I would rat him out..............for that is is what he is a WS RAT.
"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure'
God Bless,
=Carem
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Put yourself in his W's shoes, and simply answer your own Question.
One tip from me- I would keep it annonymous- no need for them to have someone else to focus on when this comes out. They need to focus inward not outward......
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This thread is from last October...why is it being bumped and responded to?????
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I strongly lean in the direction of telling about it - we all know that affairs thrive in hiding. Exposure early on is the best way to save the marriage. If the adultery partner is planning to meet with the unfaithful spouse means: the affair will flare up again, and maybe get worse.
All those of us here, who are suffering through the misery of adultery would do well to be an educational force in the public, along with enduring our private misery, which means that when we find someone doing it - SPEAK up.
I always wished that co-workers of my wife would have spoken up and tell my wife that adultery is a terribly unloving thing to do to you spouse. As a cheated spouse I would have wanted very much others to take a stand against it, which means - expose the situation. (spouse's friends, family, nobody did)
It is doing everyone a favour, all those people who get plunged into this situation.
By all means, tell the affected spouse.
time to change the crazy one-sided no-fault divorce laws - ideas/opinions welcome
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This thread is from last October...why is it being bumped and responded to????? Because Resilient is a Bonehead and did it by accident. Then a bunch of goofs followed suit. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> Sorry. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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