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Kim,
Sounds like your feeling better, I am so glad.
Don't ya just hate feeling good for days then something seems to set ya back. They arn't kidding about this rollercoaster ride.
keep up the good work Kim.
Hurting
BS (Me)- 47 WH - 46
Married- 24 yrs
3 children 15,19,22
2 grandsons
D-Day- June17, 2005 while I was 1400 miles away
WH living with OW since July 05
WH filed divorce papers Dec. 22, 05
Divorced granted June 28, 06
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DS would be $45 every two weeks to be added on for Dental(I think it's just Dental). I pay for his health insurance where I work($275 every month.) DS needs dental, so I guess I'll send a note for WH to add him on. Kim: Just a quick financial comment. Do you really think paying $1170/yr for dental insurance for a 6 year old is financially sound? You should read the "fine print" on these dental plans, and realize that you usually get far less than what you pay for.... Just some food for thought. Lem
Some people just don't get it, they don't get it that they don't get it.
I had the right to remain silent.......but I didn't have the ability.
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Lem -
That's a good point. His visits w/out insurance run somewhere around $100. They did say he needs some kind of retainer for his bite, but it wouldn't be that much.
So, yeah - $1170 a year for JUST dental is crazy for a 6 year old. Thanks for bringing that up!
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Hi Kim- Just wanted to pop in and support you. You are always there with a kind word for me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Hope your day is going wonderfully. God Bless, -Caren
Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.
BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.
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Hurting & Caren -
Thanks for checking in! I know the rollercoast will go back down eventually......I'm just enjoying the Up-part while it's here.
I'm off to bed!
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Hey Kim just stopping by...you sound good. Keep it up.
aka-confused42
BS-45 me
WH-42
DS-14 & DD-12
together 21 yrs, married 18.5yrs
"I love you but not IN love with you" speech 6/3/04
D-Day 2/25/05; WH moved out 3/15/05 & back too soon 3/22/05...He left again 5/8/06
5/25/06 Plan B.....NC letter 6/18/06
Recovery finally began Jan 2007
We are IN love again!!!Sept 2007
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Hi Confused - thanks for checking in! Hope you are doing o.k. also!!!
No big news right now. Still feeling very good. DS was so sweet one night last week. After WH brought him home, he gave me a gift of a plastic ring that he won and a lollipop. Then he gave me multiple kisses on the cheek and told me he loved me over & over. It was SOOO sweet. Although I tell DS I love him all the time, DS is not so "open". So it was a special treat. And the kisses!!! So sweet.
I have been reading a book I picked up from the library ....slow going b/c I never seem to have the time for it.
Did some yard work yesterday and today as the weather is quite nice. I have four Crepe Myrtles (SP????) in the backyard that have never really been given a proper trimming. They have been back there for at least 9 years!! I've tried trimming them with a regular hand saw & that doesn't quite "cut it." A co-worker lent me his electric saw....not sure what ya' call it. And I finished trimming the last one today!!! YAY. It was a huge project, now I need to finish painting my bedroom!!!
I feel like I am being prepared for something.....It's weird. I have felt this for the past couple of days. I am just so at peace right now. I don't know what it is, but something has come over me.
Sent DS down with a bag of bills and the "NOTE" for WH for their "visitation". I'm sure I will get a response note back.
Well, you guys enjoy your day!
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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OH, and I just finished opening up a savings account.....I am embarrassed to admit that I don't have one. Every year I just let WH deposit all of the tax refund money into his account for vacation. Well, this year we split it.
Since I still have most of the money, I figure I should put it into an account so it can earn a little bit(4.25%) - the rest I am going to put towards paying down cc bills and then still have some in an emergency sitch.
So I AM improving myself!!!
K
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Every year I just let WH deposit all of the tax refund money into his account for vacation. Kim, a quick point.....getting a Tax Refund year after year from the government is actually a very unwise move for your financial well being. Your giving the federal government an INTEREST FREE loan on YOUR MONEY.....think off all of the money your giving them scott free. They park YOUR MONEY in an interest bearing account (earn money on it) and then give it back to you a year later. That interest should be yours. Adjust your withholdings accordingly. Lem
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Thanks Lem - I will check into that! Then I can just take the difference and put it right into the savings account & earn interest right away or, better yet put it right towards by CC debt.
By the way, I have not used a credit card AT ALL since October. I am proud of that too!
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Kim, Just want you to know that I am proud of you too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
Me/BS 48
Married 16 yrs/together 23; 1 child
Dday 4/05; WH "needed space" and left 5/05
WH Filed D papers 6/05 - Divorce final 12/05
WH moved in with OW 11/05; moved out OW 1/06
12/06 His 3rd and strongest attempt at reconcilliation (I believe OW still in picture)
2/07 Affair over, begging me to take him back - it's too late.
WH has tried numerous times to reconcile.
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Just dropping in to say, Hi!
Keep up the good work.
XBW
DS16 & DS22
PLAN D: finalized!
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Hi Shattered & Luna - Have been a bit busy with work & haven't had much time to be on the boards.....
Thanks for saying "hello"!
Found out that the insurance at WH's new job covers both Dental & Health, so that will be a big savings....
Going out of town Friday to visit my Dad & sis. Should be nice.
Things are just still moving along steady. No change. I figure that if WH does want a D he doesn't have the money for a lawyer. And if he files for a D, then all assets would be frozen and we wouldn't be allowed to refi at that point.
Two of his creditors have called for him this week....I told them that he didn't live here anymore.
I hope OW is worth all of this.(which of course, I know she's not!)
Take care everyone!!
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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