Everytime I read on the these OW's letter, I wonder....is that PBR striking again?!?!? LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

You know they are all the same. The slant they have is because the mothership does not require 20/20 vision. Notice how great she is vs you.

Babble pure OW babble. If she were that great, she'd be married already. Seems like she was trying to convince herself more than you that she was some sort of soulmate....more like stalemate. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Here's the deal.....many of us received the same letter. In some cases, almost verbatum. Scary ya know?!?!? I got one of those (I received several..... in my case, the OW was a babbling brook), I got on while on vacation at my mother's house. I read it at the library..... talk about biting my tongue.... you are not suppose to make any noise in a library....guess what I wanted t/d!??!?!? I was in a smaller town to boot so if I made a scene, my parents and other relatives would have known ASAP! YIKES!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Well.....now make sure you keep a copy like it was previously recommended. Give a copy to the WS and tell him this is one of the results his A created. Now he'd better clarify her true points. Mine did.....the A lasted another 2 years after that..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> But at least I heard the stuff from his mouth. See I can't plan anything on the OW except to stay away from her. But the plans A & B were for me and the WS w/b the one to see it (but not the OW). The OW would only get to feel the results of those plans. If the WS is still in communication with her.

In your case, the OW is losing ground and she is scrambling. See this letter as a plus not a minus. The positive thing is you have more info on her. She is NUTS!!!! Play that in the WS' ear and make it solid that if he is going to settle for a nutsy OW, you'd be better off finding a sane H. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Best thing for you t/d is NOT reply to the OW and NOT let the WS know whether you will reply or not..... be vague. That w/b your gauging point. If he bugs you about replying, you will know he is in deep contact with her and she is bugging him. If he doesn't, then maybe recovery is closer.


JMHO,
L.

I got the impression while reading this that English was not her first language. I would be so tempted to correct it with a red pencil and send back to her but no response is the best. This is the ranting of a desperate woman whose life is slipping further out of control.

I think this was written more for him than you. She's expecting you to share it with him since he cut off contact. If he's in the early stage of withdrawal, you might want to consider holding off sharing this with him. Speak to your MC about it.

The OW may have contributed something to society....she just came up for the cure for insomnia. I almost fell asleep reading it.

My eyes hurt now. LOL

Just have a look at the famous OW 'Charter', as currently on display in Larry's thread on In Recovery...

Lies and more lies

Your OW is following every rule.

TA

Desperate rantings from a loser. Shattereddreams has it right, your H should respond to this brightbulb with a no contact letter telling her to buzz off. Sad that she can't get her own man and has to settle for scraps and crumbs from someone else's H. Some women have no self respect, do they?

The no contact letter should be written together and mailed by you.

Sample:
Dr. Harley's (From SAA)

(OP), I want you to know that out of respect and love for my wife and children, I have come to realize that I must never see or talk with you again. My relationship with you was a cruel indulgence that (BS) did not deserve. While I cannot completely repay (BS) for the pain I have caused her, I will do my best to become the husband she?s been missing. I care a great deal for my family and I would not want to do anything to risk their happiness. I will not make any further contact with you and I do not want you to make any contact with me. Please respect my desire to end our relationship.
Sincerely,
(WS)

jph took the words out of my mouth. I couldn't even read the whole thing. Of course the only answer is to NOT respond, but it just begs to be corrected and sent back, preferably with some paragraph structure and coherent train of thought added to it. As an added bonus, you could explain to her the concept of having the various thoughts in a missive lead up to a final point, and how having such structure to one's writing makes it much more enjoyable and readable for the reader.

You could follow the whole thing up with, "And by the way, what WAS it that you were trying to say anyway?"

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This sounds strangely like a combination of all the letters our OW gave to my H...pretty typical from a person trying to hold on. Take the good suggestions you have received here and do whatever it takes to get her out of your life.

As for the letter...I made copies, sealed them up and sent them to my mother to be put in her safety deposit box. Make sure that you do likewise.

Oh My Goodness!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
If it wasn't so sad, it would be funny.
I love the one posters idea to publish it in the village newspaper, better yet, put it on a bill board.
The desperation of the o/w is so clear. Just confirms to me that adulters produce some of the worst odors, from all the crap that comes out of their orifices, north and south.

I think that e-mail is worthless, just total dribble from a woman that desperately is trying to hang onto someone that never belonged to her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

If you want to have a little fun with the **$#!!!! and mess with her mind, you could e-mail her back, and tell her your support group had a great laugh over her e-mail when you shared it with them today. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Just make sure you don't tell her its this website, we don't need any trolls around here.

What utter and COMPLETE $h!T!!!! Being a RFWH, I distinctly remember thinking that GARBAGE was actually TRUE!!! I had also seen "The Bridges of Madison County" and thought that was us... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Perhaps I am now way too cynical to ever be romantic again? I don't know.

I live in reality now, not the hormone-induced "fog" of a liar and cheater.

Rant off...

WNB