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"After an affair, it is very very important that the 2 affairees NOT see or speak to each other. For many reasons
one reason is ... it is highly likely the affair will re-start"
This, ladies and gentlemen, is the God's honest truth. And if OW was using bc with the first one and ended up pg, guess what'll happen when the affair is re-ignighted?! "BS thinks she's hurt and confused and mad about one baby," thinks herself, "two would be the icing that fliped the cake."
BTDT. You DON'T want to try to survive 2 oc. It was almost unbearable, and it's still a wound that hurts DH and I.
- Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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And another thing...why do so many OW's seem to get pregnant? Doesn't anyone believe in birth control anymore? And why do the wayward husbands not use protection? Do you betrayed wives go get tested for STD's and HIV?
Do these WH's WANT to get caught? Heck, a lot of 'em get pregnant on purpose to try to get the WH off the "fence" and they think that's the piece that will make him decide once & for all to leave his wife. I think the OW in our situation probably used FERTILITY MEDS to get pregnant on purpose! Why don't WH's use protection? During the A, their heads are **** fill in the blank! Plus, in our sitch I'm sure OW told him she didn't get pg w/o fertility drugs, although any time he looked at her crosswise she said he was pg, then would miscarry, then be pg again, then lost one of triplets, then be pg, then miscarry - oh good grief, it was crazy the stories she would spin, and he believed them all! Right down to fake dr. paperwork when he insisted on it! Incredible. As far as getting tested for STD's & AIDS - you better believe it!!! MSA
BW 43 me
FWH 39
M 1992; DD 18. 13
OC 8-05 - no contact
In recovery 8 years
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My husband is lucky that my hands don't fit completely around his neck. The OW in my sitch, has 4 children with her H, he's a nut too, my H and I use a condom regularly. He has a ONS and thinks it's ok for no condom, that really hurt. I can't even discuss it any further. I'm getting pissed talking about it.
April - Affair
May - OW tells H that she's pregnant
June - OW's H calls to inform me of affair and pregnancy
August - Present - Working diligently on marriage. In counseling at church.
December - OC Born - NO CONTACT!
May - DNA TEST NEGATIVE - MY H IS NOT THE FATHER. THANK GOD.
My new Title - BS w/ OCS (Betrayed Wife with Other Child Scare)
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