Thanks ladies. It does help to have you here. I feel crazy for wanting to call him, but I'm not (not crazy and not calling him). I may post here instead. Thanks for understanding.

Checking in on you Faith, wanting to know how everything is going?

Be strong!

Karona

I called him tonight. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

It's been 3 days since we talked, and he DID say I could call him anytime. We had to catch up on how our rival SEC football teams did today. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

It went fine. He seemed happy to hear from me, even said so. I made sure I didn't keep him on the phone forever. We kept it light: football, his kids, what we've been doing, etc.

Whew. I'm glad I did it. I think it was fine. And I'm proud that I actually waited 3 days. We'll see how it goes from here.

On a sidenote: old XBF "J" ... I had lunch with him today. He wanted to get some stuff back from me that I still had (I was still helping him with billing on his side-business), and he wanted to talk to me. He said that he is still in love with me, and it hurts too much for us to still be friends and communicate, so we need to break it off completely. If I ever decide I want to try again with him, I can let him know. Soooo.... I am sad to lose him, because I care for him and like having him as a friend, but I understand that it is too hard for him. So I won't be hearing from him anymore.

It sounds like it went fine Faith. Are you planning on waiting again before you call him? And I just have to ask, I'm cringing.....He says you can call him anytime, but does he act like he might call you too?

I'm not familar with xbf J, is he someone that you couldn't make a relationship work with?

Keep us posted.

K!

Just checking in real quick before church...

yes, he'll probably call me too. He said he would. And yes, I plan on waiting again before making another move.

XBF J, I've talked quite a bit on here about him, 2 + yr relationship. Main issues are his lack of boundaries - tries to please everyone, including his kids. His kids - 2 teenagers - are out of control, and I can't handle it. One extreme (I don't have kids, and my personality) to another (his chaotic situation). I can't stand being at his house. It's chaotic and the whole situation is hard on the kids as well, since their mom died and J started seeing me too soon after she died.

And, as a news flash, he DID call me last night, even after he gave the "no contact" speech yesterday. He just couldn't help it. See? He's got issues. I shouldn't have answered, but I just had to know what the heck he wanted.

"yes, he'll probably call me too. He said he would. And yes, I plan on waiting again before making another move."

Okay, good. I'm glad to read this. I think your wise to wait a bit before calling again too. Let him think about things.

Now that you mention J, I think I do remember some stuff there. I'd say your wise to move away from that situation. I'm sorry for him, but that's a big spot to be in. Sounds like things are kind of out of balance, and you can't fix that.
I would have answered too. Poor guy, he just can't take being alone can he.

Take care Faith.
Karona