2, Get your H a USC ball hat. Tell him it's to remind him that the enemy has much power if we choose to get on the playing field with him!! HA! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Sorry...bad humor! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Actually Rocked, that was funny!

I was thinking about it last night and want your take. For a year before and all during my H's A we did a nightly devotional together. The first one we did was great and the devotional ask lots of questions which should have helped us to better understand each other. We both liked it.

After the first one, I bought a second one that we didn't like as much, but still did. However, with my H "working" so late we didn't get to do it as faithfully. But I still remember many nights when we'd get ready for bed and I'd pull it out and he'd say "I'm too tired. We'll do it tomorrow." It began to become a source of arguement because it seemed like he never wanted to do it and I always did.

After d-day we picked it up a couple of times but it was too fresh and we couldn't get through the devotional without an arguement or tears. So we stopped and we haven't done anything in almost a year.

I would like to start doing devotionals again. We loved the first one and both devotionals encourage open communication and praying together. Sadly, even putting that in place in our marriage did not prevent his A.

Anyway,I guess that is the message I want to communicate. We need to get back to prayer and devotional time together. I think it can only help our marriage and I think it is important which is why we instituted it in the first place. So should I re-give him the one we were doing during most of his A since he probably didn't give it much thought and we only did about half of it, or should I go get a new one. But I think that is about the only thing I feel like giving him right now.

Thanks for the thoughts.
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Get a new one... as a symbol of God creating a new bond and spirit between you and your H. (This symbol is as much for you as it is for him, 2).

I believe one of the enemy's strategies is to get us to focus and dwell on the past. Heck, just look at the percentage of our posts that deal with backward vs. forward issues.

2, kick the enemy in the pants and look forward with faith that God wants to create in you both a new and right heart. (And don't tell me how tough that is. I know it's tough. I have dealt with this too and come to realize that I've given the enemy too much ground with my dwelling on the past).

Where's the 2 that used to spit nails at the enemy and claim back what He stole?? I want to see that Woman of God again. God has a wrapped gift for you 2, called your future. Will you trust him to receive it and open it with joy and anticipation of His goodness?? C'mon...do the right thing.

Thanks Rocked! You really made me smile. I will try to get a new devotional today. I think that is a good point. Do you have any suggestions? We have done Moment Together by the Rainey's and Nightlight by the Dobsons (I think).


Have to work so I'll chat later.
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How about the Joy of Sx?

BTW, Sx doesn't stand for Sox...as in White Sox. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Bunch of Chicago freaks! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Sure! Is there one called The Joy of SEX with your spouse only?

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Hey 2,

My mom just called with a idea for my H and I bet your H might like it too. There are supposeably authentic signed baseball's from this year's White Sox team. I have a website so you can look at them if you want. I will email it if you do.

It might just be me, but if my H gave me a book about marriage on our anniversary and I was the one who had the A, I would feel as if it were a slap in the face. Granted, maybe our spouses need that, but I would be weary of a gift like that. Now, if the WS got that book and said I want to strengthen our marriage to insure you of my committment to you, that is another story. That would be an awesome gift. I suppose, though, if you said how much you really enjoyed the one before the A(without actually using the A as timeline) and said that you want to share that with him again for the next year, it could be ok, but again be careful how you present that.

Again, that is only me.

Hope you can figure it out.

True <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

That makes sense True, but like you said, we've done these before. So I don't think he'd take it wrong at all.

A baseball sounds expensive, but worth looking at. You're right, he'd love it! Send me the link.

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How about a baseball bat? You can say that if he's caught with another woman he'll see this bat up close and pesonal right tween the eyes. (Or somewhere lower!)

HA

2, are you working right now? 1pm is fastly approaching. Better get your game on.

Another book idea...Ways the UCLA Bruins could beat the Trojans.

Oh, wait a minute, no need for a book. One stick 'em note might suffice. With room to spare. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

True I just did a yahoo search and found an autographed baseball. And it is ONLY $2,280.00! Yeah right! Maybe he'll get a t-shirt.
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8 minutes and counting.

oops, home clock is fast. More like 12 minutes.

A lot of catch up reading for me...

2 sorry about the ol Bruins...they'll get em next year!

Rocked, yes, go easy on 2.

Not too busy this weekend. H had the sniffles, so we stayed indoors most of the time. Took my daughter for a Mother-Daughter day at the salon yesterday.

Anniversary gift 2? What type of music does he like? Perhaps a collection of cds? Not too original, but then you could listen to them on your surprise trip.

Strange, well I don't know what to call it, my H cleaned out this home office on Saturday afternoon. I recycle so today I diseminated the trash. Well, in my H's little waste basket out fell little pieces of paper...you guessed it, it was the OW's name and address and numbers and email address. I am confused to why a year later I needed to see this and why did he wait so long to throw this away? I have decided he found it while he was cleaning. He is still working hard on us, so I am not worried about it, just confused to why, this day, I had to be the one to empty out that little waste basket's trash.

True, I feel that way alot of the time too. Why back then did my H tell me he loved me and hold me and care for me, yet still felt the need to go elsewhere? Maybe, because once again, it was different. He felt he could lead a double life and no on would be hurt by it. He now knows that would never be true.

Peace,

holiday

I so-o-o-o laid into 2. She was broken. Strong lady though she is yet her knees buckled, her voice trembled, and her heart fainted at my superiority and reign as king prognosticator. I was almost "moved" by her sniffles, weeping and pleads for mercy. Good try 2, but the Trojans held tight and there was no slippage or leakage on the field of play. They accomplished their purpose by protecting their bid for the big crown. Oh well, there's always next year.

Rocked was a perfect gentlemen, as always. He was MUCH nicer than I would have been.

So today is my anniversary. I really thought it was tomorrow and felt a little bad when my H greeted me with a chipper "Happy Anniversary" and I was all puzzled. "It's today?!" So I went and got a card.

Last night I went out with a friend who is moving out of the country during her seperation from her H. I know her from her sister who for a couple of years was my spiritual mentor. So when I went to pick her up, her sister comes downstairs and says "I have a book for you (she always lends me books from her spiritual library.)" And guess what it was? A new couple's devotional. Once again, I was in awe of God. I told her how I had just told you guys I was thinking of getting my H that for our anniversary gift. Interesting isn't it?! I guess God thought it was a good idea too.

Anyway, H taking me away tomorrow. Looking forward to it. It is so kind and I realize that.

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Whoa on God's gift choice. I woulda thunk He was a White Sox fan suggesting the autographed baseball!

2, don't soft sell the lashing I gave you yesterday. You know it hurt! Admit it. I was relentless. You almost hyperventilated. (Oh, maybe that was b/c of my overwhelming presence). Have you had enough, or are you ready to bet on NFL games? Bring it on.

Happy Anniversary. Or was it yesterday? Or today? I can never remember.

2,

Happy Anniversary. Amazing story about the devotional...but God works in amazing ways.

I am off to MC tonight, if the babysitter does not cancel on me. I am not exactly sure what to talk about anymore while I am there. I have told my H that I will not ask him any more A questions, b/c all I get is grief from him. I had stopped asking, but the one year anniversary thing had me thinking things over again, and I started again. Most of the time, I get sighs and "I don't remember." You would think you would remember something so signifigant in your life..good or bad. So, I just bottle everything up, just like they say not to, b/c it is just so frustrating.

I have also had the urge to call the OW, like you did 2. I don't know why. To see if she is still there? To actually talk to her?? No. I have no idea why she has mattered to me again lately. I know she doesn't, but I guess part of me wants to remind her of the pain that is still be felt by herself actions at this time last year.

Anyway, if I don't get a chance to talk to you before you leave, have a great trip with your H.

Rocked, are you ever serious??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

True <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />