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A boycott on movies involving infidelity would probably bankrupt Hollywood. Bit like a newspaper without bad news. It ain't gonna happen. The last 'Christian' movie I saw was the Passion of Christ which was the most brutal, bloodthirsty film I've ever watched, yet compelling. Human nature has a dark side - so hard not to look at the road accident as we pass by. I have watched so much sex, adultery on TV/movies but I really didn't 'get it' until it happened to me. To boycott it would be to deny it and it's just too big. I hate that I now understand it but I'm a big girl and can make my own mind up about whether or not I want to watch it.
I LOVE going to the cinema. It's one of my favourite pastimes. I don't relate any of it to me - it's a bit of fantasy to lose myself in for a couple of hours. I don't dwell on what I've seen. I'm a bit shallow! As soon as it's over I need the loo and something to eat. TT
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I have to agree with another poster that said that hollywood paints wandering spouses as victims of verbal or physical abuse, and they go onto have an affair with someone who can really (sarcasticly) love them. I was just watching the western Tombstome with Kurt Russel playing Wyat Earp who has an affair with the lovely actress, and of course his wife is portrayed as some drug addicted person who doesn't care about anybody or anything. Sheesh. Then they glorify the union of Wyatt and the other woman as living happily ever after. (puke........) What about Sleepless in Seattle. Granted they weren't married but come on, Meg Ryan was living with the guy and they were just about to be married. There again, true love (sarcasticly) prevailed when Tom Hanks hooked up with Meg Ryan.
Maybe the writers that come up with this crap, have had affairs themselves and have decided that they are going to try to make the world see affairs and change the world perception of affairs to ease their conscience. Anyone have any comments on that?????
A poor slob that is mistreated by his wife and in walks the other person, who of course understands the straying spouse and all that they are going through. They help each other heal, and go off to find true love. NOT, Paleeeeze!!
In the end, I have nothing to lose but everything to gain, by trying to save my marriage.
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Agree with kds, Hollywood romanticizes adultery. I remember watching Bridges of Madison County years ago and thinking how romantic it was. It occurred to me years later that it was about as "romantic" as two pigs rutting in the pig pen. There is nothing "romantic" about adultery, it is filthy and vile.
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I'm not the wayward, but I do want to see this movie.
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Agree with kds, Hollywood romanticizes adultery. I remember watching Bridges of Madison County years ago and thinking how romantic it was. It occurred to me years later that it was about as "romantic" as two pigs rutting in the pig pen. There is nothing "romantic" about adultery, it is filthy and vile. Can anyone say "Sueeeeeeeyy!!!!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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The fascination of watching Damage is similar to the fascination of watching a car crash in progress--you know something unpleasant is going to happen, but your attention is riveted to the scene of destruction. In the case of this acclaimed drama, adapted by playwright David Hare from the novel by Josephine Hart, the destruction results from a collision of sexual attraction between a British governmental official (Jeremy Irons) and his son's fiancée (Juliette Binoche). Blind to the damage they'll cause to others and themselves, they begin an obsessive affair based purely on impulsive attraction and the hidden emotions that feed into their immediate physical desires. As you could expect, this leads to emotional fallout for everyone concerned, lending multiple interpretations to the film's title and allowing Miranda Richardson (as Irons's Richardson (as Irons's wife) to give a brilliant performance drawn from raw anger and betrayal. Under the direction of Louis Malle, this forceful drama never resorts to sordid detail or gratuitous titillation. Rather, Malle and his esteemed cast have explored the ways in which the power of sexuality supercedes the rationality of logic, when mutual attraction is stronger than one's ability to resist temptation. Damage makes it clear that such an indulgence will always come at considerable cost. [color:"brown"] This is a description of the Jeremy Irons movie DAMAGE which has a very powerful gut-wrenching scene where the betrayed wife discovers the affair ... this is truely one of the most realistic film portrayals of the DAMAGE infidelity causes and it is equally hard to watch and hard to not watch not for the newly betrayed !!!! [/color]
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Agree with kds, Hollywood romanticizes adultery. I remember watching Bridges of Madison County years ago and thinking how romantic it was. It occurred to me years later that it was about as "romantic" as two pigs rutting in the pig pen. There is nothing "romantic" about adultery, it is filthy and vile. Well said, Mel.
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I just hope he behaved like a gentleman and kept his hands to hisself! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> p.s. and I hope you washed your hands real good after work! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Yeah, I did....but did she??????? You gals seem to forget that often things are "role reversed" now days..... Hot date....? I wouldn't call it "hot"....yet...but defintely potential. Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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An aside...
I personally would love to see a boycott on movies involving infidelity....maybe Hollywood film investors would respond to a slowing demand and begin investing in scripts promoting healthy life choices!!! Picket signs anyone!? Ahuman: THIS IS A FREE COUNTRY.......You can do whatever you want (within the law). Why do you feel that there should be a "boycott" on things that you DON'T want to see. You don't like movies that as you say don't promote "healthy life choices"?....SIMPLY...DON'T GO SEE THEM. Why should you LEGISLATE what I want to spend MY HARD EARNED MONEY on. Why don't we also start banning professional sports? Steroids in baseball !!! There is alot of brutality in Pro Football and it is very violent. There are people who may use illegal drugs to cope with the physical pain from the game, or use drugs to enhance their physical stature....why don't we ban that also, as it is not "healthy enhancing". This is such assinine thinking. How did I know that posting a remark about a movie I enjoyed would make people uncomfortbale. The "Christian" remark was exactly as you say. It was not a movie that actually inspires "healthy living"...BUT SO WHAT? I don't know how people don't go crazy when they consume their whole life around infidelity and "recovery"....I saw where someone was listening to "recovery" tapes while on the treadmill. For crying ouu loud. I am a highly educated adult who can tell the difference, and certainly doesn't need a "moral majority" to tell me what is good and "bad" for me. Give me a break. People are adults....Please remember the concept of 100% responsibility? Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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Bridges of Madison County was a very difficult movie to remember since when I first saw it,I was not yet scarred with the A by my WH and Clint Eastwood is such a good director he could make anything look good and moving,even adultery.All that was over the course of 4 days too if I remember correctly from the book.Francesca keeps all of the A to herself though(until the death) and so we never hear about any fallout or how it would damage the kids if she left, like we all endure.
Also,the movie Serendipity was nauseating.Too sappy and the whole idea about "fate" instead of choice was not realistic after the two main characters are already with other's, they expect that fate will rejoin them and they will be soulmates,yada yada.EA for sure and off the movie goes with a sappy happy ending.
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Also,the movie Serendipity was nauseating.Too sappy and the whole idea about "fate" instead of choice was not realistic after the two main characters are already with other's, they expect that fate will rejoin them and they will be soulmates,yada yada.EA for sure and off the movie goes with a sappy happy ending.
O OG: I agree about Serendipity. The movie was actually nauseating to me. It was predictable and I hate movies where the two main characters do not actually interrealte. The funny thing is, I didn't see it as an "emotional affair"...LOL. I don't see every movie as relating to infidelity or not. I had a bigger problem with the "fate" part of it rather that the percieved "EA" of it. The two main characters were obviously NOT IN LOVE with their significant others. It was a predictiabel sappy ending though. LEM <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I betcha Lemonman had a DATE at the movies! When do we get the details, bud? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Took a Respiratory Therapist to the movies and had dinner with a few drinks afterwards. I don't really drink or eat "processed" food anymore, so I admit that my stomach was a tad queasy afterwards. The cool thing is that she asked me out <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />...kind of cool. I don't know where it will go, if anywhere. She is not the type that I actually go for (looks wise...too skinny ), but she is very smart, engaging, and certainly had my attention the whole night. Defintely potential...but I make it very clear that I am still in the "selfish" mode and not ready to commit any serious time or energy to a relationship. Maybe that is the time when things strike. It is all good though. There is no pressure, and the worst thing that could happen is that I could make a new friend. I give credit to anyone who could come up to me in the ICU, ask me for coffee and then point blank ask for a date and face the possible rejection. Got to give her an A just for doing that. To any of you who don't have "hangups" about all of this stuff, I think the movie is worth your time (although it was 17 bucks for 2 people...WTF?). It was suspensul, and although somewhat predictable, I enjoyed it. The main point that I was left with......DON'T BE A WAYWARD..AND TRY TO HIDE IT....COME CLEAN< OR YOU WILL PAY PAY PAY.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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How did I know that posting a remark about a movie I enjoyed would make people uncomfortbale. You mean that isn't exactly why you posted it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> And I know all about those respiratory therapists, too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Most of the ones I see moonlight as chimneys when they're not giving breathing treatments. I'm hoping with your no-processed-foods outlook you're also looking for someone who doesn't smell like the bottom of an ashtray! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Good luck! t&l
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And I know all about those respiratory therapists, too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Most of the ones I see moonlight as chimneys when they're not giving breathing treatments. I'm hoping with your no-processed-foods outlook you're also looking for someone who doesn't smell like the bottom of an ashtray! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Good luck! t&l LOL.............Wow Nellie...now that was a "generalization" if I have ever seen one...LOL...I like it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> For me, smoking is an ABSOLUTE Deal breaker for me. I have never dated anyone who smoked....just disgusting. Yuck... Now liking Nascar and county music are also deal breakers for me. Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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now that was a "generalization" if I have ever seen one...LOL...I like it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> All generalizations are false, you know! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Although I'm not sure if it's a generalization when all I did was say that most of the ones I knew smoked. Every day when I come to work, there those RTs are, taking a break from treating emphysema and the like, lined up along the hospital wall and puffing away. I've never been able to understand it. Kinda like the OB/GYN I know that can't seem to contain himself in his britches and has several children because of it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Don't tell me this man, at his age, has never heard of prophylactics!! How stupid is that?! t&l
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Every day when I come to work, there those RTs are, taking a break from treating emphysema and the like, lined up along the hospital wall and puffing away. I've never been able to understand it. You know, now that I think of it...I know quite a few RT's taking a smoke break lined up outside of the ED....hmmmmm, interesting. I have a Cardiologist friend who tells patients that he follows who continue to smoke despite having had several heart attacks and angioplasty..."My kids appreciate your continued contributions to their college funds"...they look at him like he is crazy....I particularly love that style. Lem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I saw Jarhead over the weekend. Being a former military guy and now a BS, parts of the movie cut deep. One particular scene in the movie is something I heard about a lot during my time in the service. I always thought it was an urban legend kind of thing. And even if it was true, I was always "Sucks to be him". Now that I have been forced to view everything through BS glasses, it just sucks, and hurts.
Aside from personal hurts, the movie is very vulgar (we are talking Marines, (oooh-rah!) From my perspective it gives a pretty fair representation of men in a military field setting. 99.9% of our talk and horseplay center around vulgar sexual stuff. It's like a guys locker room amplified by a million.
That's a side of being a BS that I don't hear about much but that affects me daily. So many of my favorite rock songs, movies, jokes, etc... are ruined for me. Once you are the BS you cannot laugh about sex stuff because it hits too close to home, it hurts.
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Anyone remember the 1984 movie 'Falling in Love', with Meryl Streep and Robert De Niro? A very romanticised affair. Not a feel good movie for a BS at all.
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Since we are talking movies, I want to throw in how much I now LOATHE the movie PRETTY WOMAN... Although neither of them were married, it carries the theme of my H's R with the FOW... He, the older,suave businessman, rescues/wines/dines the young "whorina" from the other side of the tracks.... Her fantasy is played out in the movie...they actually "fall in love" and "live happily ever after".... YUK!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
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