Hey OG, I saw your inquiry on Cy's post and did not want to threadjack his, thanks for thinking of me.

Things are good, it took awhile to reach this stage. I am taking things one day at a time but I have to say we are both happy in our "new" marriage and have buried the old one. We are rebuilding our new Life together after we decided to give this another go.

Anyway, I do not consider myself lucky or anything like that, just a much stronger and more loving person. She realizes what she had and almost lost due to her shenanigans. I also realize the role I played in our M and how disconnected she apparently felt but she could not talk to me, communication was our biggest problem like some couples experience from time to time.

We are both on board sailing our new ship through clear seas but also know stormy seas could be encountered any day. I say this figuratively but after moving back east and settling into our new home we did purchase a boat which has been a blast and great activity together.

My best regards to you and your sitch, continue to build your new life and seek the inner peace you truly desire.

Nature

Nature!

Wow,I am SO happy for you and your W.That is so wonderful.I am glad that it turned out to be what you had hoped.I think several of us were concerned and were skeptical but I am glad your marriage was saved and it sounds better than before.Congratulations!

Don't be a stranger ok? We need hopeful stories like yours to encourage other's.That is if your W is ok with it.

Anyway,may the future be as bright and happy as it can be for you both.

Take care now~

O

Thanks for your kind words. I won't be a stranger, I do lurk mostly but do not post very often.

Suffice to say nothing is easy in this life as I know you are painfully aware. I also know no M is perfect, there are ups and downs, this is what my single friends are truthfully unaware of.

Is my story hopeful for others? I guess so, but each of us has to decide what is best for their life. I really had to give up on the M and focus on me and not be drawn into the drama that unfolded. I did not envision how hateful I could become and my anger was near uncontrollable at times. Ultimately I had to come to grips with the fact that no one is perfect, we are human and make mistakes. I know I made a few in our M which led to her feeling "disconnected" as women say from time to time. I am not excusing her behaviour but I really do understand how this could happen, even to me.

Anyway, the MB process ultimately strengthened me as a person and helped to begin to heal my heart and find my way back to her after I gave up for so long. She was there all along but I did not see it. There was nothing so overt on her part to indicate so, but the teaser phone calls were always there, she never stopped trying to call or reach me but I was no longer listening.

I know the innocence in our M is no longer there and never will be, ever again. That still hurts but I cannot change the past, only focus on us and our future. It also hurts that my family and a few friend are no longer rooting for us or the M. They frankly do not believe in what I am doing.

I look at my M now from a different perspective. This healing helped in so many ways and I can take it with me no matter where I go or what happens to us. This A served as a huge wake up call for both of us.

Peace be with you.

Nature

Nature,

I do think your story is hopeful.Every marriage saved has some essence of hope to it.You were down to the wire and your WW was trying to reach you.We could all see that but the big question was what were her real intentions? It could have played out any number of ways but thankfully it did the way in which there is hope for a better future with your W.

I am sorry that your respective families still harbor "resentment" about reconciling.Maybe in time as they see you both doing well they will have a change of heart but what matters most is how the both of you are doing together.

I too will take MB with me wherever I go.It has helped a lot but a lot was also things I already knew and put into my marriage.Alas, I was not as fortunate in saving my marriage but I have no regrets.

Peace be with you too and enjoy that new ship(must be big if it's not a boat!)~Sounds like fun!

O