I hate being a newbie. I forget I have to press the "okay to submit" button and then everything is erased

Well I wanted to say Thanks to all who read and posted (yes even you Lemonman and Ark) I went back and saw some of the old posts and you both speak with great wisdom and I appreciate your honesty from an outsider's perspective)

You guys posed some very hard hard questions to me? and I realize that this goes way deeper than the issue I'm dealing with now with my H. What is it about me that allows men to disrespect me this way? What do I do to enable this or condone it? This is bigger than my H.. although the question about "what do I do to contribute to his behavior" struck a cord with me.. b/c H and I did take the EN questionairre and I would say and he would readily agree that I am a great wife. I think I do an excellent job at meeting his needs. H says this is something in him that he needs to deal with.. That women are his weakness. This scares me but I do appreciate him recognizing this and taking the positives steps to work on himself. He has set up individual as well as marriage counseling for us on his own.

I as well will be looking inside myself to find the answers to these questions? This is a tough place to be at but I am so grateful for this board. You guys are phenomenal people! I admire the courage and the wisdom that can only be found through experience in all of you.

I have some little questions that are coming up as I deal witht he day to day emotions of all of this but I will start a new post for that. and I would appreciate any feedback.
Thanks to all!
Be Blessed

Looking at yourself is step one.

Applause to you! Don't give up on yourself!

mobo, i have to ask, did your h meet your needs and take special care of you? was he always putting you first and making you feel like a queen? i just wonder how spouses act when they are still dupping us????