BH~~

You are so right about the dating world, my mistake! In my case, its a very small fish bowl! A little humor there, but sadly enough, it's true.

It's very key for me to be open and honest, and I do expect the same in return.
I wish you luck with eHarmony. I myself signed up too, but did not fair very well. The closest person they sent me was 2 hrs away, and I never made to open communication.

answers to Q's:
1. Ha! Did I mention the first time I met him a had a blonde long wig on? Could it be he only likes blondes? I did ask him before I met him if he knew the hair was not real.

2. That one had me too. I wondered why the wait?!

3. Okay, maybe. But, lets say he's really not interested in me. Then, that would be a reason not to call, so maybe he did it out of obligation.

4. Could be a lie, but honestly, he didn't owe me any explanation as to what he did, other than conversation, IMO.

5. I will remember the pause que!

6. Could very well be. And that is fine, because I'm in heart protection mode. However, I'm glad you made that statement. This was very puzzling to me, and reading this helps me understand what could be going on.

"What does that all add up to?"
UMMMM, He's Just Not That Into Me!

Thank you for you thoughts. Your views have been well taken!

Karona

I'm willing to believe there are no rules in dating. However, my time is extremely limited. Any man who wanted to see me would have to make an effort to make plans in a timely manner. For example, while I may not be anxious to fill my free weekend with stuff if I were dating someone, I probably would if he didn't call me for a week or two. That's not to say I wouldn't go out with him, but I wouldn't call it "dating" him, I'd call it "getting together occassionally" because it would seem to me being with me was not high on his priority list.

[color:"blue"]Karona,

I agree with BH. I don't think the dude is being very upfront. I also think it is odd that he still lives with his folks. He displays (to me) some flags for passive aggressive type behavior.

I think BHs assessment line by line was right on target.

V. [/color]

I think by the third date you should ask for a resume and a current credit report. *G*

j/k <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> laughin' at my own sitch

I would say that you did cut him off, but after many days and multiple pauses it is either that there are issues and he is covering or he is lacking in the conversation/personality department. Neither situation being good.

You are an awesome person with a whole lot going on. Mr. Right is coming, until then have fun!

Take care and God bless!
K

GG~~ I'd say that would be a good term to use. I guess it's up to me if I want to accept late notice occassions with him or not.

SV~~ yeah, something seems a miss for sure. Who knows what it is, and I'm not sure I want to figure it out.

xp~~ do you think they would run if we asked?

Still~~ I think you could be right, maybe I cut him off, but I couldn't keep asking seemingly silly questions.
Thank you for the compliment. I hope you are right that he is on his way. Believe me, it will be posted if and when I meet him!!

Thanks for the the input everyone!
Karona

Buttercup, I'd like to add to the resume and credit report references from three former girlfriends or wives and a full psychological workup.

So, are we to assume that you haven't heard from him yet? And you haven't called him either? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hey Faith~~

He called only that one time, 4 days after 1st get together.
I have not heard from him since.

I have not called him either. I did think about it, but decided I should just leave it alone.
I don't think I will ever hear from him again, and I'm okay with that.

I'm back to realizing how pathetic the area is that I live in.

Thanks for asking Faith.

Fill me in on you, anything dates?

Karona

Well, keep us posted if you hear from him. I won't be surprised if you hear from him. You never know about these men.

Moi? hmmm... I started to post an update about D, my last "BF", that needed the space, but decided not to post. I called him again today. The last time we talked was LAST Saturday, when i called him THEN also. I'm glad I called again today. I reminded him about my choir concert tomorrow, and I asked him if he was seeing anyone (I HAD to know). He said no, and I believe him. But today's talk answered some questions and resolved some of my anxiety. I feel more like I can move on... let him go, really. I felt like he didn't really care about me at all, since I hadn't heard from him, but I know he does, since he returned my call today after I left him a message, and by the way he talked to me. And I really believe him that he's not seeing someone else. So I have a better comfort level.

Sooooo.... I have free movie tickets for a premiere Tuesday night (the new movie "Just Friends"), so I think I will call Mr. Slow and invite him. I think I'm ready now. I will call him tomorrow night or Monday. Who knows.... maybe I'll have a holiday date afterall... maybe not. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Interesting title!!
Sounds like a safe title to invite a guy to.

So, you're going to put this guy behind you and move on? It's probably the best advice you can give yourself concerning him, but it is hard.

I'm six months into break up with boyfriend. I can say that my thoughts of him are less, but they are still there everyday. I've graduated though. I used to think I messed up so bad. Now, I'm feeling more validation for my thoughts and reservations.
That being said, if I ever ran into him, and we began talking, I can't be sure how I would feel. It could be a regression.

Keep us posted on the Mystery Slow Man! I'll live thru you Faith!

Karona

Yes, I'm ready to put him behind me and move on. I'm OK with being friends, if he wants to contact me, or I may contact him every now and then. But my "anxious" thoughts... or I dunno... wondering why, and what he's doing, and if there's someone, and just plain WANTING him so much or wanting to fix this.... have dwindled TREMENDOUSLY today, just because of that phone call, time, and the things I read in Mars/Venus the other night.

I'll definitely keep you posted. hehe. And don't live thru me... you're doing a little bit of your own livin', girl!

How did you feel like you messed up? Becuase you let him go? Am I remembering correctly?

My livin' is very few and very far in between. Actually though, it's probably for the best in my case.
I had went out with a guy 2 times in August. I was still so emotionally attached to xbf, that I couldn't enjoy the time with the guy.
This latest guy, I didn't think of xbf at all emotionally, and finally feel I'm healthy enough should a good catch come my way. I didn't feel the emotions concerning xbf, I clearly felt lack of connection with this person.

Why do I feel like I had messed up? Because xbf met all of my emotional needs. I had never experienced that before. BUT, it was to the point of smoothering, and it became more than I could handle at that point in my life. I was off and on again with him, in the end, I was replaced by someone else.
I had so much more healing to do, and I couldn't get there with him in my life. I often wonder what he would think to know that it's taken me 6 mos to get over him. I suspect he thinks that I have moved on with someone else, but that has not been the case. It's purely been a work on myself.

I'll be watching for your updates!

K!