The example- a woman of God believes that is her true self, but does things in a R to go against what she believes (we need to get LL to read this!), but she always comes back, and most of the time, the SO is left behind, because they are a witness to the offense, and it would take much humilty to keep them around.
Okay, I'm FINALLY catching up on this thread. And yes, that does sound like me. I have let myself be pulled away from my faith/beliefs more than once in life, but I do tend to always come back. It's just very painful each and every time--guess that's the penalty we pay for our disobedience.
I have read the entire Boundaries in Dating book. It truly does have a lot of good relationship advice, and had I known all that before I married my ex...uh, lets just say there were lots and lots of things in there that warned me about people like him. And yes, there are some things regarding disrespect that hit home with my current non-BF.
I was a little frustrated with the "Setting Appropriate Physical Boundaries" chapter because it seems to be mostly geared for never-married virgins. It didn't address much of the frustrations that people who have been in long-term sexual relationships but who are now single and looking to date again and not go there. However, it did make some really good points about self-control, and if someone can't or isn't willing to control themselves sexually, it's probably a sign that they lack self control or are selfish in other areas as well. I'm trying to beat that into my head with my current situation. I see selfishness in non-BF. But I'm still really struggling with the pain of a relationship that is basically ended except for the formality of saying so to each other.
LL
