Hi, Speedy.

If other man is in the same house with your kids, asleep or not, according to the RO, he is in violation of law. I think you should take this issue up with your lawyer first thing Monday morning. If plausible or possible, involving law enforcement might be appropriate.

As far as her doing worksheets or marriage counseling while she is otherwise involved, it is a waste of time and money. Your speaking with Steve Harley for yourself, is a very good idea however.

As for the exposure, you should be clear that they are being physical and that he has been spending nights with her in your home.

As for Plan B, get your kids safe first, then worry about the marriage.

All the best,
Gimble

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.