You're not anywhere near where I am, so don't jump ahead. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Here's an idea. Set a limit. Wayward Wife (WW), I don't want you to see the Other Man (OM) anymore. He is not part of our family or our relationship. The path you are heading down is destructive to our family and needs to stop. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> This does take some fortitude, so suck it up Senator, and CONFRONT her.

You sound to be a very thoughtful and passive person. You could do with a little righteous indignation and passion. That may be what your wife went looking for. But that doesn't mean it's OK for her to go outside her relationship with you to find it.

To fix this, you need to stop it first. Tell her you love her and want to make your relationship more than it ever has been.

Read through Dr. Harley's thoughts and ideas aboud His Needs/ Her Needs. Then find out what her needs and your needs are.

That will be a good start for now.