It's after Christmas, Have you exposed to OMW yet? The longer you wait the less effective it may become. As I mentioned before I suspect the OMW already knows something is going on. It may be a relief to her to know that she not "crazy".
If you expose to OMW it will put GREAT pressure on OM. He might very well choose to not continue with the affair. After all, what will his peers think of him running around on his pregnant, soon to deliver wife? The TRUTH is your greatest weapon. Truth / Exposure kill A's. A's flourish in deception, dishonesty, not allowing the truth to be seen.
DO NOT be a part of enabling this behavior by not telling OMW. Kill the affair, then you can start rebuilding your M.
I get a text about five mins later bring her over I don't have to go to the gym tonight. I bring her over and we began to play.
Did you possibly interrupt a "play date" with OM? She's probably a little peeved out that.
I told WW if she would open up to me that all this pain and hurt will be lifted and we can make it better. WW replies I dont hurt Im just really angry and i dont want to talk to you. I did let my ego get in the way and told her what about the other night with OM how do you explain that and she got angry and didnt want to talk about it. I noticed when i talk to her she can barly look me in the eyes. Constantly looking away.
She can't look you in the eyes because even though she denies it vehimately she knows the truth about what she is doing and is ashamed of herself. Look at her actions. Don't trust the words.
I said you really think that and she replied yes Im scared of you.
She's NOT scared of you. She's scared to face the truth about what shes done.
Prior to leaving I was holding DD at the door and she gave DD a kiss and hug, WW then put her head on my chest and said big hug. On the way out she did the big hug again and WW kissed DD I kissed walk away on the chhek and I asked for a kiss WW kissed me on the cheek.
Excellent! A good plan a ending.
Does this sound like a person living in fear of her husband?? Im confused.
You shouldn't be. She's not afraid of you, She's afraid to face the truth. Think about this. WW & OM's actions are possibly going to break up two families with small children. I'd be afraid to face that!
WW asked for me to call her when she got home so she knows we made it and she will sleep better. Suspicious.
Remember, She wants to be "SuperMom" for all appearances.
Today I sent WW a funny text like I use to and she called me back don't send me text like this and why since you were ridicoulos last night. That batted me into a argument I just could not help it.
Your human. It may be a small step back. This happens, don't let it get you down. Keep moving forward using Plan A.
I never raised my voice or called her names like she did with me and called me crazy just move on and why did you use DD against me in your D papers etc... I told her I dont do D and that is what lawyers are for and I only do M. I told her to open up to me and to stop being dishonest about OM.
Excellent! Keep to the Mantra!
I did tell her there is more to come and she took it as a threat I should be wacked 2*4. You just get frustrated and can't help yourself sometimes.
Whoops! Step backwards. Your human and this happens sometimes. Keep to plan A. To be perfectly honest there is no way a WS would NOT take that statement as an implied threat and react the way WW did.
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WW then threatened me she was going to go to the deputy chief and asked if I like the unit I worked for. I told her go ahead I don't care if I get put back on the street. Im a police officer.
FOG BABBLE. Give it all the consideration it is due.
WW then tells me I think you like OM more that I do and that is all that concern you and the M is over with so it doesn't matter what I do.
Ask her when the D was finalized. Until the final decree you are Husband and Wife. Do not accept anything less that full respect of that fact. DO NOT give up Hope! Fight for this M until the final decree! She can stop this D at any time up until the Final decree if you both decide to reconsile.
WW sent me the folloeing text "U use DD as a pawn. U need 2 b hospitalized and getting worse" I did not reply to it.
Good Job! She's trying to bait you into an arguement. Don't let her. She's hoping that you'll give in and make the D easy for her.
" I dont appreciate your threats of future BS. Ctinue 2 justify my hate 4 U" I did not respond. I have a career, baby and life. I don't want U. Y do U insist on pushing yourself on me? I did not respond.
Pure unadulterated FOG BABBLE. Give it all the consideration it is due.
She wont buge on anything I will continue my plan A. I don't have much left in me but I will continue.
Bullseye!! And believe me you have much more left than you know. Remember the prize if you get through this. Restored Love, Restored Family, Restored Repest. It is a goal worth fighting for! Give it everything you've got!
I do get sad and it hurts when she acts like this how can she ever realize the devistation and hurt she is causing to people? She just wants me to runaway but i won't b/c I committed to my M and family.
Of course you do. It is heartbreaking to see the ones you love putting themselfs and their family through the pain. She wants you to make it easy for her to walk away. Don't give in. Remember the prize when you get through this!