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NICE TO SEE YOU'RE DOING SO WELL, MWIL!!!
Glad to hear that all is well!
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Hey G...glad things are progressing so well for the both of you. just my mother feels the need to create conflict....not sure she has EVER forgiven ANYONE for ANYTHING....including herself. Was she always like this or did she take on this attitude after her A began? Sounds like she has never shaken the WW mentality. All the best G! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> HTW
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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My mother has been like that quite a bit, but moreso after her 2nd affair (current husband of 10 years)
She lost alot of friends, and she resents so many people. Her issues, IMO, have their roots in her upbringing, but also were magnified by the downward spiral that was my mother's deeply buried low self-esteem. She accepted my FWW back, but that acceptance is very shallow....eg. not much forgiveness! I have chosen to deal with it by not accepting her behavior. I am just not going to deal with her until I get an apology, which sadly, maybe never.....I've never heard the words "I'm sorry" come out of my mother's lips.....ever!!! To anyone!!!!
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She accepted my FWW back, but that acceptance is very shallow....eg. not much forgiveness! I have chosen to deal with it by not accepting her behavior. I am just not going to deal with her until I get an apology, which sadly, maybe never..... I find it ironic that a WW chooses not to forgive a FWW who has repented and decided to take the right path and make things right. The position your mother has chosen to take is extremely presemptuous don't you think? You are making the RIGHT decision by standing by your FWW.
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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Hello MWIL,
Finally got to the end of your thread - not without a few more tears mind you. What an inspirational tale. I hope I get the chance to emulate some of your fantastic behaviour at some time.
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MWIL
You are an inspitation to me. So much so I adapted your username! Hope everything continues to go great for you and your family. You have such a great understanding of the Plans here being all about you.
If you get a chance please drop by my thread.
All the best and thank you
Vladie
Plan D June 08
Me FBS 36
W 38
Married 13/1/09
The best is yet to come, with or without your WS
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Wow George,
I just finished reading this entire thread over the past 3 days and i was brought to near tears, getting misty twice and real tears when your MC cried during that one session.
I hope you and your W are still applying the MB principles and Pray for continued success to your entire family.
LTL
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I recall reading MWIL's thread so very long ago. Haven't seen him post in years.
A truly remarkable MB success story.
Me: 57 Her: 54
M: 31 years
Kids(DS23, DD20, DS18)
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Bump! 
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Bump! So how are things going for you now. How has your life improved since your last post.
H51 WS53
S21,S15
DD3 2/12/14
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Well, other than some potential health issues/anxiety (tons of tests, all negative, but periods of normalcy) my life couldn't be better! DW and I are healed and then some....way better than before the A.
Last night we shared in the joy of purchasing and brining home a new 2014 Nissan Rouge apple red....and it was so much fun! We even took it out together later in the night, so she could see all the interior lighting.
The memory of those horrible months are just that....memories....no pain, actually, I look at it now as a challange from above, to enhance the remainder of my life with my DW at each and every opportunity.....we are becoming two peas in a pod!!! We are best friends, and soulmates.
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