Glad you're ok.

Having said that....LMAO!!!!!
Thanks I needed that! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I work in a hospital..I'll keep my eye out for an extra set of testicles.

You had stated once that if any Bs had a question you would be glad to answer it. This is something I have had on my mind for 2 months now. About 2 1/2 months ago my WH went to a retirement lunch at work. The OW was there with her H. My WH negelted to tell me he had seen her for 3 wks following. I knew at the time something was up by his behvior towards me. The alien slowly came back and his old behaviors. He said to me one night I do not find you sexually attractive. It just brought all the old feelings back from DDay. I knew then that he had seen her. I told him so. I asked he denied. I told him I knew he had seen her and he confessed. I explained to him as quietly as I could that I was angry with him for not telling me immediately. That he was again lying and deceitful. That he had broken our agreement of no further contact and should have let me know immediately by phone. We had agreed that was to happen almost a year ago. I am wondering why would he revert back to the old person so fast after one meeting where they did not talk ? Her H did all the talking. It was only for a couple of minutes where the H told him they were moving away. My Wh has always said it was a friendship thro work not an EA or PA. I believe he is still lying -if she affects him so strongly as to change his behavior towards me so quickly. What do you think please.

You know how you get random jokes and funnies from your friends via email? Well, AskMe, I have just submitted your post as a random funny to my group of email buddies.

That was, hands down, the funniest thing I have read in a very long while! Sorry to hear about the testes abandoning ship so-to-speak though. In a few years they may start to trust you again, but it'll probably take a lot of coaxing from the wife. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Happy hunting. :-P

OMG - thanks for sharing - I needed a laugh. Maybe your dog could tell you which direction the testicles headed out in. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I'm glad to answer a question, and you know there are plenty of others who probably know more than I do, but I'll do my best.

Obviously your intuition is in tune with things that are going on. You picked right up on his change in behavior. So as my counselor has told my wife repeatedly when you sense something has changed, trust your feelings.

I think the key point is the husbands conversation with your Wh. He said they were moving away. I thought about anyone who has moved away in my life, coworkers, friends, etc. And it's people I have been really close to that have triggered me emotionally when they left my life. Emotional triggers are what cause you to start behaving differently. They throw your focus in life to a different direction.

Whatever happened I would have to believe the conversation triggered him emotionally. You were seeing results of the emotional trigger. Whether there was a friendship, an EA, or a PA it's hard to know. The only problem I have is he continues to want to hide it from you. It has to get across to him that honesty and trust is important no matter what the consequences. And if you had an agreement, he needs to stick to the agreement.

Now, what he needs to do is get in touch with himself as to why he felt the way he did. Why did his emotions change? What was it about knowing she was moving that caused the change? That is where he needs to get real about himself.

Does that help any?

Yes very much. I have decided when he says I do not know I will no longer accept that answer or when he says I do not remember either. We are at a point where I want answers to my questions or we shall stay were we are now. I want more and If I do not get more than I can not forgive. How can I forgive which I do not know. He says it was nothing if so why did he change. Now he is his old self again. He needs to be honest and forthright. I think he will feel better as well. Thank you for your insight.

yes.. what was your wife's response to this one? ROFL. I'm not a guy to read the humor posts... man, I actually printed this and gave it to my boss... it was then faxed to another location! You have outdone yourself with the telling of this story.

AskMe,

I’m not sure where your testicles are but have a feeling they have joined your BRAIN which obviously vacated your head before you made this experiment!

This is about the funniest story I have heard. Beats my friend who mixed up cans of mounting spray and shaving cream. Unfortunately he was going to shave – not glue up some photos.