I agree...Git it out Girlfriend!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

good advice gals.

I'm real sensitive to not making those same mistakes over and over again. Communication is the big thing for me to work on. I am very guilty of bottling things up. I really don't want to be responsible for ruining this.

He's really special.

YIPPEEE!!!!! A happy ending. Gotta love those when we can get 'em! thanks for sharing!

BUT!!!!
You are still having some issues Lexxxy (hey, I just noticed that is triple x! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" /> did you mean to do it like that?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> So naughty!), or this wouldn't have come up. I think your bank is low and you were starting to become a taker there...(hey! what about me ovah heah?!)
So, this was a deposit, but how long will it last?

Are you using MB on him? Have you filled out the EN questionaires? Now's the time, in the beginning! Don't wait till your running low again, do it now when you are feeling special and it's a great way to use this as an example...("You're being around made a huge deposit, that's what I need from you")

As far as the ILY...I've been thinking about that. My conclusion...don't have one. I don't know what I'd do or how it would make me feel. What's important is that YOU need that! Maybe you could talk to him about just slowly getting used to the word. For example...I love our conversations... I love the time we spend together... I love yellow snow...see what I'm saying?! Maybe you could get him to tell you the things he loves about you... without 'saying' he loves you... make sense? (again, to start!)

But the actions would be HUGE for me. Nothing worse than a man explaining, pleading even, how much they love you, but their actions prove different. There's got to be some common ground here somewhere!
Good Luck hon! Happy Holidays! So glad for your New Years, wedding, etc!! Fun for you! You'll probably be sick of him and ready to go on vacation when it's over... har har!! Just kidding! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

As far as the ILY's....I guess I'll try to be patient. He and I have discussed this one. He knows its important to me. I'm feeling stifled a little bit, cuz I'm sure as heck not gonna say it if I get a weird response like "thanks."

And also, its really truly not something I care to pressure him for. Its kinda like making your kids say they're sorry when you know damn well they're not!

So, its going to challenge me to keep the communication open about this. I don't want to demand it, nag about it, beg for it, threaten, or pout -- and yet still express that I need it.

I'm a little late chiming in here, and don't think I'm really a part of you girls' group, but I"ll share.

I TOTALLY understand how you feel about not wanting to be a whiny **tch. I have never, I mean never, asked a guy to spend time with me. What I hear from others, (outside of here) is that guys sometimes really do need to hear that. Can I do it? Not at this point. I have the opinion that hey, if they choose something else, then that's my message.

My BF of 5 months just told me last weekend ILY. There were a ocuple of months of build up, with him frequently telling me how "deeply" he felt. I think the words were on the tip of his tongue several times, but again past hurts kept him from saying it. And of course my past hurts prevented me from saying it first. So my gut wants to say, if he felt it, he should say it. But on the other hand, I also felt it from him by his actions quite a while ago. I agree actions may speak louder than words, but now that I hve the words, it sure is nice!!

I'm not sure if I helped or not. His recent actions are WONDERFUL, and you should be happy about that. He did put you as a priority. And if he really did take 12 year (!) off from dating, he could just be really rusty.

cm

Sounds like this guy knows his mind. Look, men show their affection and feelings diferently from women. Don't expect him to act like a woman and think like a woman. If he does, then he won't be a man worth caring about for very long.

thank country mama -- it sounds like we're in very similar situations. I'm about a month behind your time frame, so maybe its coming soon. I'll definitly hang in there and work on this, either we'll talk more or he'll come through on his own.

Justin -- you're right. Men and women are very different. And I do recognize his efforts, and tell him how much I appreciate them.

He called me this morning just to say good morning and to tell me to have a great day. He does so many good things. I'm not going to focus on the negative -- I'm going to keep all the good things top of mind!

Good plan Lexxxy!!!!
You go girl!
Enjoy! There are some of us out here gettin' nutin'!!
Always be grateful for what you have, the rest will come!

BTW, good morning, and have a great day! ; )

ahhhh how nice Lexxxy...I'm happy for you!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />