lisaanne,

Even if you go forth with the abortion and choose never to tell your H about your ONS with the OM, the truth can still come out. The OM IS the wildcard that may one day [even inadvertently] spill the beans.

If you are truly serious about wanting to become a mother, then please read the following:

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Abortion and Future Pregnancies


The American Medical Association and the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology agree that abortion could lead to future pregnancy complications. A post-abortive woman has an increased chance of miscarriage and infertility. Abortion also heightens the risk of placenta previa in later pregnancies. (Placenta previa is a life threatening condition for both the mother and her wanted pregnancy.)
(Source: A. Levin, "Association of Induced Abortion wi th Subsequent Pregnancy Loss," Journal of the American Medical Association, June 27, 198 0, 243 (24):2495-99.)

Did you know . . .

That complications such as bleeding in the first and third trimesters, abnormal presentations and premature rupture of the membranes, abruptio placentae, fetal distress, low birth weight, short gestation, and major malformations occurred more often among women with a history of two or more induced abortions ? (Source: S. Linn, "The Relationship Between Induced Abortion and Outcome of Subsequent Pregnancies," American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, May 15, 1983 , 146:136-140.)
That women who have had an abortion are more likely to have a low birth weight baby in a later pregnancy?
That having an abortion might increase your chances of delivering prematurely in a later pregnancy?
(Source: W. Zhou, "Induced Abortion and Subsequent Pregnancy Duration," Obstetrics and Gynecology, December 1999, 94 ( 6):948-53.)
That having an abortion can increase your chances of having a tubal or ectopic pregnancy in the future?
(Source: A. Kalandidi, "Ectopic pregnancy and prior induced abortion," American Journal of Public Health, March 1982, 72:253-256.)


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