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Sorry nobody...I was hoping somebody else with more experience with these Plan B letters would chime in. It looks good to me. Maybe you should insert before you say "If there is an emergency...." you could say "Until you recommit to our marriage and end all relations with ______(OM) I must refrain from any direct contact with you whatsoever."
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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That's ok, MrWondering, even though you say you haven't had experience writing Plan B letters, your advice has been very sound.
About the addition, I agree that is an important distinction to make. I did have a sentence very much like that at the beginning of the third paragraph; are you saying that I should re-state it before the sentence about 'emergency contact'? Or that I should move it?
Thanks!
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saying it twice is ok.... start with "Once again, until you recommit to the marriage...."
Or the since it is a 2nd reference to the same thing how about:
"Once again until you commit to giving us a chance AND ending it completely with OM, I must...."
I toned down the recommit language becuase it's tough for them to agree to work things out in advance. You are really just asking for an opportunity plus NO CONTACT. The recommiting part happens in recovery once they overcome the "I don't think I can love you again" phase.
I hope you've read your share of Plan B threads. You have been unable to really do much of a Plan A with her out of the country so I don't expect much magic from Plan B and I hate that you have yet to expose OM to his family and friends. If you can - DO THAT PRIOR TO SENDING THE LETTER. Then when she yells at you for exposing then you go to Plan B officially.
You just can't expose during Plan B (it appears vindictive)...and what have you got left to lose. You see...without exposure, Plan B might just be a relief to your wife right now as nobody is holding her or OM accountable for their illicit behavior. You want them both to be as uncomfortable as possible so the natural end of their fantasy will be expedited. Otherwise...your just waiting and hoping.
Again - I look to others to provide there take on the letter but I know I am dead on about exposure. Getter done.
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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I agree with Mr. W. Expose first, then Plan B.
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