PINCH. Ok, it's real. Now the suitable thing to do is plop some food on your shirt this time....

Hey Laura! Sorry AGG. But, I wanted to take this over for a minute to tell you Laura I'm also sorry to see you here. Unlike AGG I haven't been over on EN to know what's up. Do you have a short version or can you point me in the right direction to read up? I checked for topics from you over the last couple of months but nothing.

Do I remember correctly that your H had some fears that had some hold over him, elevators being one?

AGG~~

Well, it appears someone else is smitten as well?!! Eat it up and enjoy!

Karona

Ahh I'm so happy for you AGG!! Keep us updated...you know how we girls love to hear all the dirt!!

HUGS!

Thx for asking, AGG, and the kind comments. Under the circumstances, although I wish it were different I'm not sorry to be here. Enough of the negatives, the selfishness, and no needs met whatsoever. I tried and I DID try hard. So what I take away with me is the realization that I'd chosen an emotionally unavailable man and to really assess for a LONG time next time.

YD and I have moved into a townhouse. It's pretty. Going through stuff and getting rid of excess. Decorating. A little nervous about money but I'm budget conscious and owe no credit.

OD has been visiting often, and it's nice to have sounds of laughter and young people again...without frowns and SOMEbody turning up the tv volume to drown out what I prefer to hear anyway!

Perhaps I'll find "the one" in the future, but I'm not settling for the wrong ones any more.

Wow, AGG, I have to admit that I'm impressed by your optimism. If I had gotten such an e-mail, the first thing that would have popped into my head is that after sober reflection she had decided that I wasn't her type and she wanted to break off all communication. Naturally, she would want to take care of the matter quickly, before her trip, so she wouldn't have to spend her whole vacation dreading the unpleasant task.

Of course, in such a situation she could just send an e-mail to that effect, but if I were so impressed with her myself, I would have to credit her with the character to recognize that proper courtesy required her to "break up" with me in person.

Now, if I were really paranoid, scenes from "Fatal Attraction" might start playing through my head. Fortunately, having never seen that movie, I remain blissfully naive...

Gawd Gnome! What a total buzzkill post! Almost makes you sound bitter and cynical, no offense <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> I just have to say, I disagree w/ your paranoia completely.....sounds like they hit it off famously and she wants to see him again before she leaves, and that's from a woman's perspective. Now, if I didn't want to see him again I certainly WOULD NOT initiate any more contact or ask for another date just to break it off in person after only 1 date. No way Jose.....the phone would do nicely for that.

AGG, big smiles for you here! I'm just thrilled to hear you really like her. Just LOVE new romance. I think it's awesome.....keep the updates coming. Like Alluring said, we girls LOVE to talk up this stuff <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> It's so COOL to see that guys get just as giddy as us girls.....

DW

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Kathi - wow, nice to hear from you, thanks for the warm wishes!! Still, I vividly remember what happened last time I was smitten, so I want to guard my heart (easier said than done, G is such a doll...)

nams - you know, call me weird, but I want to hold off on the first kiss. I definitely feel that kind of a draw, which is great <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />, but I don't want to rush it - you can only have the first kiss once, I don't want it to be hurried in a mall parking structure <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

Laura - I did not post to you on EN, but I think you did the right thing. That man had serious issues, well beyond the normal ISTJ stuff <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. I know you'll be better off without him. But please, be nice to yourself and spend a bit of time alone before jumping into anything, promise? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

Karona and Alluring and DW - I promise, you'll be the first to hear ALL the dirt, ahem...

Gnome - I used to think that I was the most cynical and pessimistic guy on these boards (OK, ladies, no need to agree with me), but I think you just took that title away from me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> (I know you had your tongue in cheek <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ). I must admit that I had not considered that she only wants to see me to break up with me in person, no doubt AFTER I buy her dinner.. Typical <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. But, I'll tell you this much - she offered to pay for her half yesterday (which I duly declined), but I really appreciated the gesture. It is quite refreshing to see that here in LA.

AGG

Yeah, AGG, I had a little trepidation about posting such a downer, but I found the temptation too hard to resist. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I was counting on you noticing the position of my tongue there, and just to be safe I added the bit about courtesy requiring an "in person" breakup in order to highlight just how implausible my imagined scenario was - because of course as DW points out, that would be ridiculous.

**making a note that he did say ALL the dirt**


** thinks AGG must have a frog in his throat**

trying to match your requirements, with a random population, should take quite awhile at your (our) age.

The random part is that they can't go out and select people to sign up. . . they have to pull the people to sign up. . .
and with the population that i see as so very shortsighted, and have very high expectations of fulfillment, as if we are all ordering dates from overstock.com,

i find that your negativism on eharmony matches a typical, unrealistic expectation. . . given its a random process. . .

i am glad that you found someone finally, that just might be healthy. . . that future is still a bit uncertain, only time will tell.

good luck

wiftty

Wiftty,

Maybe I should have said it differently. My negativism is not that they didn't find me a match quickly enough with the right person, it's that they sent me 300 matches with women who had no personality compatibility with me.

Since Eharmony claims to be personality-based, they should know better than to send me non-compatible types, which is exactly what they did. I kept scratching my head wondering why they kept doing that. Perhaps my expectation was unrealistic, but I simply expected them to deliver what they advertised, and they did not.

I believe that it is exactly like you said, a random process - not a "scientific" compatibility matching process that they claim to have.

So, IMO, it's not as much Eharmony's "brilliance" of finally sending me a compatible match as it is my brilliance in knowing and appreciating a compatible personality type when it finally floated my way <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

And yes, I am perfectly aware that this is just the beginning of an uncertain process, so I am trying to keep my eyes open.

AGG

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Oh, and it´s so worth it.
It´s the best.

Since GDP already took care of reminding you to be cautious, I say: Enjoy! Nothing better than some romance at holiday season.

I wish you all the best.

And of course: Keep us posted!

* wondering what´s all the DIRT talk about... *

Nora

Hi nam! Thanks. Not to clutter up AGG's thread too much, read here for my situation.

Hugs.

I read a review of the matching sites that use personality tests. I'll see if I can find it and post the URL.

Ah Gnome, forgive me as I totally missed that one <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> One of the many pitfalls of non-verbal communication, no? My bad! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Arrggghhhh, now I got second date jitters... Please, someone tell me it gets easier in due time?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

AGG

*shrug* OK...

"It gets easier in due time."

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