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Thanks Gnome, this is what my MB friends are for <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

Oddly enough, the jitters are quickly disappearing, as she and I are doing some e-mail flirting as we speak, so that's a good sign for our date in a couple of hours... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

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eharmony, huh??? Never tried it. Of course, I hit the bullseye first time out on Match.com... my current SO is hopefully going to be my LAST.

The jitters are funny, though, AGG... just goes to show you're taking this all well, and you see the potential.


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OMG, now here is a name I haven't seen in ages! How are you WhoDat?? I am deducing by your post that you did end up getting divorced, sorry to hear that. So are we gonna see more of you here on the Dating board? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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The jitters are funny, though, AGG... just goes to show you're taking this all well, and you see the potential.

I totally agree, jitters are a sign that I see the potential in this (which I do). While I hate them, I would much rather go on a date having jitters than my more common "ho-hum" feeling. I just hope she doesn't turn out to be a total flake <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Also, I think that as we start accruing some more dates under our belts, it will become less jittery, and we will feel more comfortable (safe?) to become emotionally vulnerable to each other. THAT is the stage I like <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

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I am deducing by your post that you did end up getting divorced, sorry to hear that.

Well, the divorce took a looooooooooooong time, and was quite convoluted. But it's done, I'm better off for it, and I think my Boys will be in the long run as well. Better to see their parents apart and happy than together and miserable.

Yeah, it's sad, but I have been saying that we were just two people who never should have gotten married in the first place, yet managed to have a couple great kids in the process. While I am glad to be divorced, it would have been better to be in love with each other and stay a family. Wasn't to be; I even called and talked to Steve Harley once (he actually remembered me... I was shocked!) and set up a time for her to call before we started joint, but as you might guess, she never made the call.

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So are we gonna see more of you here on the Dating board? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Not sure... we'll have to see. I wonder if I even *should* be dating... I mean, I really only threw the one dart (to continue my analogy from above), and dated ONE person after my divorce... the one I am currently with. I don't *want* to date anyone else, but going straight from one longterm relationship to another might not be the healthiest thing in the world either. Time will tell...

But on much more important topics... good Luck and have fun tonight! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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it's that they sent me 300 matches with women who had no personality compatibility with me.

ok, take a look at it from a business perspective . . its a random process, we agree, . . . AND there is a really good matching process, BUT just your characteristics have no current matches, there is no inventory for AGG. . . . BUT they know in time that the randomness downs will be overcome, and AGG compatible inventory will show up. . .

they just don't know when. . . so how do they keep you from getting discouraged and leave prematurely, when their matching process works very well, WHEN INVENTORY IS AVAILABLE?

most likely, there are keeping you around until inventory from overmarriage.com can be acquired. . .

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you know, call me weird, but I want to hold off on the first kiss. I definitely feel that kind of a draw, which is great , but I don't want to rush it - you can only have the first kiss once, I don't want it to be hurried in a mall parking structure

Ugh, I hate it when you guys quote my stuff, now I can't go back and change what I wrote <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />. So, yup, duh, date Number 2 ended precisely as I knew it would (and said it wouldn't), with us locking lips in the middle of the parking structure for a good 1/2 hour. Not that I would typically want it to happen like that, but somehow I found myself unable to complain too much.

I didn't realize Eharmony tries to match me with good kissers, but, uh, they sure did this time.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />.

That's ALL the DIRT for now, I promise <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />.

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*chanting* We want more! We want more! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Keep up the good kissing...er I mean work! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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Okay, I vote for third date jitters if second date jitters end so well. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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hehe... I love it!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Good for you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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While I understand not wanting your first kiss to be in a parking structure, did that make it any less wonderful?


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While I understand not wanting your first kiss to be in a parking structure, did that make it any less wonderful?

Parking structure?? What parking structure??? The only thing I remember clearly are her gorgeous eyes looking dreamily into mine....


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Ah, so the environment was not such an issue.

OK, Santa now I want two things for Christmas but you can put them all into one package.

A sweet, kind man who can fix stuff & when he kisses me he looks deamily into my eyes.


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Parking structure?? What parking structure??? The only thing I remember clearly are her gorgeous eyes looking dreamily into mine....

oh boy...he's got it bad!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


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While I understand not wanting your first kiss to be in a parking structure, did that make it any less wonderful?

Parking structure?? What parking structure??? The only thing I remember clearly are her gorgeous eyes looking dreamily into mine....
Gawd AGG, this is just too sweet!

So when's the next date? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


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So when's the next date? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Darn, she is now gone for two and a half $#@$%!^&*(# weeks...

But, she did e-mail and say that she can't wait to get back here so that we can pick up where we left off... That can't be too bad of a thing, can it.....?

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It's a good thing !

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So when's the next date? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Darn, she is now gone for two and a half $#@$%!^&*(# weeks...

But, she did e-mail and say that she can't wait to get back here so that we can pick up where we left off... That can't be too bad of a thing, can it.....?

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2 weeks?! You mean we have to wait 2 whole weeks for any more googly udates?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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2 weeks?! You mean we have to wait 2 whole weeks for any more googly udates?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

'fraid so... Unless of course she dumps my sorry butt by e-mail while she is gone.

The good news is that we have plans to see each other the day after she comes back (her suggestion), so I am gaining more and more confidence daily that she is "for real". Trust me, after some of the wackos I have come across in the past few years, I do not take anything at face value anymore. Yet, from the outset, G has come across as direct, sincere, and genuine. No games. I have my bull**** sensors fully trained for any sign of inconsistency, but so far I have not detected any. She has followed through with actions on every indication she gave verbally, and I love seeing that consistency between words and actions. Especially because she says she can't wait to hug and kiss me some more when she comes back <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />. And no worries, we have similar outlooks on intimacy - it ain't happening until we are seriously involved with someone - so we are safe.. for now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />.

OK, all that aside, I am seeing some long-forgotten thoughts reawakening. That perhaps, just perhaps, there is a woman out there who will be lovely, sweet, genuine, similar to and compatible with me, who will come my way and... well.. will fall for me like I fall for her. No worries, it is a long, LONG, LLLOOONNNGGG way before I even start viewing G that way - but for the first time in years, I at least see that potential in a woman, and that is awesome.

Turns out she told her parents about me almost a month ago, yikes. I kinda like that, it's all consistent with her "seriousness" and sincerity. And before anyone says it, no, I don't think she is some psycho on a "marriage schedule", I definitely feel that she is quite selective, and just, well, happens to know a good guy when she sees one <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />.

So, nope, no big updates expected for the next two weeks... You'll just have to wait till next year, sorry <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Oh... unless you want to help me come up with ideas for our next date, which we both agreed we would like to be in an environment that is more appropriate for affection than the mall parking lot - and no, I don't think that either one of our places qualifies, so we need something more creative... thoughts??

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No worries, it is a long, LONG, LLLOOONNNGGG way before I even start viewing G that way


Reading the rest too, you are so cute thinking that you have control over this "LONG, LLLOOONNNGGG way... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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