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Hi Birthday girl! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> she has said that she would really like to get to sleep earlier, but has had trouble getting "motivated" to do so while living alone. I can TOTALLY relate! I am a night owl, but now that I'm single, it's bordering on the ridiculous <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> I'm up WAY too late for my own good. Yup, that is what I sense in her as well - she keeps saying that she is staying up way past what is good for her, so if I can be a good influence on her that way, things might work out just fine <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. AGG, she DOES sound like a real peach, but so do you. Match made in heaven <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Believe it or not, I feel the same way. I still keep pinching myself (getting tired of the welts), because it is so hard to believe the ease and joy of this relationship, but it just keeps on getting better and better every day. You guys got it going on! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> AGG
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Browsing thru this thread, there seem to be a few vital, potential showstoppers that haven't been mentioned: Sigh, I know, I have been trying to keep my blinders on and avoiding the heavy duty deal breaker discussions, but you just had to force me to face them, didn't you?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Please don't put this off any longer, OK? Hate to see your bubble burst after so much other (lesser) stuff seems right. OK, this weekend I will sink a drink to calm the nerves, and ask her the important stuff... You are right, it is not prudent to hold off any longer - who wants to be surprised down the line <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />... But, do you feel that if can come to an understanding on this, it's all downhill from there? AGG
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But, do you feel that if can come to an understanding on this, it's all downhill from there? Hmmmmmmm, depends, and I don't mean just big diapers. Recommend you report back after the confrontation. Could be the "stress test" someone advocated for earlier. --WAIT-- On second thought, don't breach this quite yet. Wait until Feb. 15th. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> WAT
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On second thought, don't breach this quite yet. Wait until Feb. 15th. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Like most others, it seems, you missed my nearly hidden admission that, well, we didn't quite make our goal - so I don't know that I need to wait till the 15th, hehe <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />. AGG
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my nearly hidden admission that, well, we didn't quite make our goal Oh *I* saw it. I just chose not to comment. heh <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.
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Nope, didn't slip by unnoticed, just being polite. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
What BIG issues are you referring too?
Not the difference in sleep habits I take it. Perhaps your desire to keep you house?
Share please.
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Lucks: Oh *I* saw it. I just chose not to comment. heh <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Hehe <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Of course, people in glass houses... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Nams: Nope, didn't slip by unnoticed, just being polite. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Oki doki <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. What BIG issues are you referring too?
Not the difference in sleep habits I take it. Perhaps your desire to keep you house?
Share please. Ooops, sorry - WAT and I were just goofing around a bit, with his "concerns" about power vs. sail and does she bait her own hooks - with tongue firmly in cheek <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. No, no "real" issues or concerns, and I have a good feeling about the sleep thing working itself out - where there's a will... AGG
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"goofing around" ??? Well, I doubt me and my SO would have gotten very far if she was a stink potter. (At least even a lady can learn to bait hooks.) I did indeed miss the, er, "pre-mature" goal achievement. Glad you're normal. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> WAT
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"goofing around" ???
Well, I doubt me and my SO would have gotten very far if she was a stink potter. (At least even a lady can learn to bait hooks.) Well, no, I certainly understand the dealbreakers, WAT! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I did indeed miss the, er, "pre-mature" goal achievement. Glad you're normal. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Er, well, like I said, it's just practice....... AGG
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I did indeed miss the, er, "pre-mature" goal achievement. Glad you're normal. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Did a guy just use the word *premature* in a sentence?? *giggle* DW
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I'm glad someone had luck with eHarmony because I sure didn't! It was a waste of time and $$. Of course I was only a member for 4 months so maybe I didn't give it long enough...??
If you don't mind me asking AGG, how old are you? I'm wondering if maybe there weren't a lot of men in my age group (I'm 51).
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I'm glad someone had luck with eHarmony because I sure didn't! It was a waste of time and $$. Well, up until two months ago I would have said the same thing. Match after match after match, none seemed even remotely compatible with me, and the membership rates for Eharmony are outrageous (especially if all you are getting is bad matches - heck, you can have that for free!). Now, as you said, Eharmony does strongly suggest that you give them a shot for one full year, which I never did. I kept joining and quitting in frustration. Still, it's pretty hard to pour good money after bad when all you are getting is bad matches. Obviously, after meeting G, my perspective has changed. I would say that it was well worth the wait. Now, my cynical side says that it was just a matter of dumb luck rather than patience, and there (of course) are no guarantees that one, two, or three years of subscribing would get you a great match. But it is a numbers game after all, you have to play to win <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. If you don't mind me asking AGG, how old are you? I'm wondering if maybe there weren't a lot of men in my age group (I'm 51). I'm 43, and was given many matches with women in their late 40's, who said they received tons of matches with men. So, I don't think you'll be lacking for quantity of matches; as far as quality, that is always the unknown. AGG
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sail versus power?
well, complicated question. . . sail for racing, and power for distance. . .
have raced at national events, and was a professional ship pilot for my first career. . .
but now, if i ever won the mega millions, i would buy a nice 40-60 foot trawler, and live on it. . .
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Now, as you said, Eharmony does strongly suggest that you give them a shot for one full year..... Of course they do! $$$$$$$$$$ My SO and I met thru match.com (didn't even know about eHarmany then - maybe it didn't exist). At the moment, my SO's sister is using eHarmony. She tried match.com first, based on our success. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Listening to her experiences has offered my SO and I some interesting comparisons. The two approaches go about the "business" quite differently. If one doesn't work, try the other. The different approach may make a difference. wiffty - "power for distance. . ." ??????? You're not serious, right? Talk about $$$$$$$$$$$!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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OK, back to the subject at hand (WAT and WIFTTY can discuss boating on their own thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />). G is coming down for the weekend, our first weekend with the kids here <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. My 9 yo boy asked if she will sleep in the guest room, and I said "No, she's not really a guest". He thought about it, smiled, and said "that makes sense". And my 10 you daughter started snickering. Oh, my son also asked if I ever kissed G, and I said "sure". After some more snickering, he said "That's good, Daddy, it's important to kiss someone you love". What a goofball. Last but not least, G and I had a discussion about the sleep pattern differences, and she said she definitely wants to be on the same schedule as us, and is already trying to slowly move in that direction. So, that's a great thing too, and it shows me that she agrees about the importance of spending lots of (awake) time together <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. All in all, I am still on cloud 9. AGG
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Soooo sweet! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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[color:"blue"]WE WANT PICTURES![/color]
Learning from your own mistakes creates experience, learning from books creates knowledge, combining the two together creates wisdom => You start with a full bag of luck, and an empty bag of experience. The trick is to fill the bag of experience before you empty the bag of luck.
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How'd the sleepover go AGG? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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WE WANT INFO! WE WANT INFO! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Really now AGG, those of us who don't have a SO must live vicariously through you. You MUST give us more. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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