BB,

Great to read a sucess story, we need people here that have made it, it shines a light on the road to recovery. If all we have is a majority of people struggeling, we can co-miserate and be supportive, but we won't have the wisdom of others that have gone through this before us.

So, a plea to stay and a wish for a Merry Christmas to you and your family!

this is just what I needed to hear right now as i am struggling to find a reason to keep having hope!

that is the reason why people likeyou are so needed here!!

It's easy to feel "ignored" -- but I read a lot of posts and just have nothing to say. I'm not the kind to post and say, "You go, girl!"

But I know the feelings -- when you are posting into a vacuum, without seeing any faces, it can feel a bit like a letter in a bottle.

bb:

While you will be indeed missed, I can certainly understand why someone might rather not hang on the possible replies 2 posts on MB - especially when their M is recovered!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I think it's extremely important for the newbies (and some of the oldbies!) 2 read of success stories such as yours. I look forward 2 the day when I can say the same as you have! (and Pep has!, and...)

best 2 you and everyone!
-ol' 2long

BB,

Congratulations, you have made it.

God Bless,

JL

BB.

I know how you feel, makes you wonder why you post sometimes, even tho you and I are models of recovery, and doing all that was right.

I don't ask for answers here anymore. I have never posted lightly and I have gotten not very nice answers when I have struggled with my own problems post recovery.

Oh well, I hear ya, I feel ya. I am soon to be gone from here as I am not 'popular' <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> LOL LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />.

God Bless you hon, and may you continue on the same path that you an H have been on. Blessings, and Merry, Merry Christmas.

Many your New Year be wonderful, glad you have moved on from here. I will be following you soon.

You, my girl, are SOOOO WORTHY. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Don't ever forget it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Love in Christ,
Miss M

CONGRATULATIONS!!! I am so happy for you! Thanks for the happy news!

BB,

Thanks for sharing your story. We need those success stories. I messed up big time with a lot of LBs along the way --- also due to depression and post traumatic stress syndrome. It is comforting to know that despite the same mistakes that you were able to still recover your marriage.

You deserve all the happiness you are now enjoying, may it continue in the new year and many years after!

Hi,

I just had to peek into here and WOW am I surprised!!!! I've hardely ever gotten so many responses. hmmmmmmmmmmmm

Is it always that way when one threats to go and really means it that others then sorta "Wake up"???
Well, anyways it really made me feel good that my bit of input has a positive outcome. Thank You

Someone wrote and wondered "why" I still come here to post...........it might be the "Salmon Syndrom"!!!!*giggle*
I feel that I somehow have to come back to place that truely "saved" me and it's sorta like the place where my "2nd Birth" took place.
I honestly don't believe that I would still be alive if I hadn't found Marriage Builders.

I am not a Bible reader but I do believe in something very deep and whenever I was very down, I always found a post or two that helped me back onto my feet......they say the same about the bible as far as I know.
So many good people posted here and shared their stories and I "knew" that I was NOT crazy once I read the same things I was experiencing.

People around me here tried to convince me otherwise. I was the one that only made mistakes. I was the one that was to change. I was the "bad" guy.
My husband tried to feed me with "WS Balony" and if I hadn't of found MBers I sure would of swallowed it................

So many people here gave me strength to stay on track and to see that the pattern of affairs are the same around the world only the affairees are different people.

I was able to gather strength and wisdom from this place. I know that people that have NEVER been touched by Infidelity will NEVER know the pain...............they will NEVER even be able to IMAGINE the deep cut it causes.............

The most important thing I have learned here within time is to really "Trust MYSELF"!!!!! I had lost that completely but I will NEVER again loose that.............I know I am a good person and I know that I have alot to give. I'm prowd of myself (again).

Staying on track for something that I believe in is very important for me now. I've had people (not MBers) asking me for my opinion and when I told them, they didn't like it at all.............but I stuck to what I believe in and now I am seeing that people respect me more than ever. (mostly my husband)

I don't only speak words........I do my very best to "Live" what I speak and believe in. (I've made my mistakes too)

bb

Orchid: Hm.... I was gonna post that those in recovery become very impatient BS'. LOL!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Rightly so, life is too short to suffer long. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


Orchid: For what u have been through, u certainly deserve it. Recovery takes a lot of effort. Not often recognized, 'cept for those who have been there done that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


Orchid: I think your sentiments are shared by many. Maybe not to the same degree but up that way.


Orchid: Isn't it odd the Ws pattern and what the BS generally do to survive? Living should be just survival. We as BS don't get to see that until we attain personal recovery.....and no u r not crazy. But the WS sure are. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


Orchid: Ditto.


Orchid: So u made your own lemonade. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Best kind are the homemade ones. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> It is a life lesson we will all never forget.


Orchid: Seems like we all attain a more clear perspective eh? Focused and clear. I find I am less tolerant of stupidity. I worked for a few months with a WS and OW in the same office. He is the owner of a company and she his well..... let's just say he made it a point to tell me he was NEVER going to fire her. So we all just did the next best thing..... we all 4 out of 5 employees left, quit..... left him with his 'most valuable' employee. The same one causing his clients to now leaving his company. The other day this OW was leaving a message on a client's line.....the dumb OW forgot to hang up the phone so the client came back to a message with the OW ranting about how stupid she thought one of the client contacts were. Imagine that!!!!! LOL!!! The funny part is that this news reached me while I sit in one of their competitor's main offices. LOL!!! Stupid WS' and OPs. They will never learn. The losses are immense, in life, love, work and everything else that s/b dear to their souls. Still the A is a selfish beast. The best thing is to cut that beast out of our lives.

Very glad to see you and yours are in a much better place. Very happy indeed. Make sure you continue to help those in despair. For it wasn't that long ago when we were there, right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

All the best,
L.

bb, I have read many of your posts. I don't usually stray from the Recovery board so didn't see this thread. Just wondered how you got thru the depression stage? Did you use any meds? You seem to be doing very very well now. I would love to be where you are now. It's my fault and not his. I've got a memory like an elephant. Such a pity that I remember such awful things and forget everything I should remember!! <groan>

take care and come back and visit, ya hear?

AN

Blond Blossom,

I think we might all feel ignored from time to time. Sometimes my posts don't get answered at all!! Am soo happy that your M is going well!!

I think the problem w this board is #1 we don't all have the time to post replys or even to hop on to see what's going on, life is so crazy. When I am here, I always enjoy your posts and you have replied and helped me a great deal!! Please don't go anywhere!!! You are a great friend to have!!! We need your input, and also need to be able to help you if things get out of control for you again (which I pray they NEVER do!!)

Blessings and Merry Christmas,
Tarehurts

BlondBlossom - as one who has responded to you many times in the past....I am thrilled that I won't have that chance anymore!

God bless!

Merry Christmas!

Have a terrific life together....Graduate!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


Love and hugs.

(((((BlondBlossom)))))

at peace,

OMG, I wasn't aware of that. (that we signed up so closely together)

How are you doing????

I myself couldn't be happier..............I am so thankfull for the life I now have.

I think I truely did over react..........the time zone thingy confuses me at times..........

Your post really made me happy. Thank you.
bb
bb

Mel,
thank you so much for your reply. I too enjoy your post and I have learnt so much from your "Texanian" way of life!!!!

Thank you!!!
bb

she said "learnt!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Forever,

you have truely helped me so much in the past! Thank you

You always set me straight and I have printed out many things you have written to me. At times, I couldn't/didn't find the words to reply but your words had a great affect on my way of thinking.

You are a very special person..........

bb

BB

I'm glad things are going well for you - it's been a long struggle, I know.

I hope you'll stick around - your is the kind of experience that's needed for newbies faced with what seems like an unsurmountable cliff to climb.

If you feel you need to leave for your own sanity - thank you for your insight, take care, enjoy your forthcoming grandchild, and Happy Christmas!

TA

Things with me are just great, BB...thanks for asking! We're just a normal, happy, recovered married couple now. Our marriage is peaceful and enjoyable....even with 2 teenagers in the house, LOL!

And that time zone thing always messes me up <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />. When my H was in the military and flying overseas, I could never remember what the time difference was, and was it backwards or forwards....etc., etc.

It really was good to hear your update, BB!

Lori

I know my English has gotten very squicky after living in Europe for over 30 years but "learnt" sounds cool doesn't it??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

bb