"stupid things WS' say" or something like that...

The closest thing I could come up with is "WW's ridiculous statements" by Dimmu, but it's a short thread and I don't think that's it. If a particular word or phrase could be recalled in the description of one of the stupid things that were said, and who posted it, that would define things very well for a good search.

Man, now I want to really re-read this thread. I'll give it a "try" also, but I doubt I will be successful.

Lem

My wife warned me not to call them again because she told them to call the police if I ever did.

You would think that WS' could be more creative. My husband saw me on his computer @ work and went nuts. He said "You better get off now or I am calling the police". I laughed it was so funny. The funny thing was I was not even looking @ anything but after his reaction wish that I had.

when i went to my house because he had left me several messages threatening suicide...all i did was knock on the door...

he told me to get off his property or he would call the police then sent me an e-mail telling me that if i ever go there agan he will have a restraining order filed against me


gee....you think the police would want to hear the 4 suicide threats that i taped and the lengthy messages from from the OW that are on the same tape...where she tells me that we are "going to go at it"

how do sane people become such a$$es??

My MIL told me that I didn't cook good enough...........that's why my husband ran off and had an affair!!!! This is also NO joke.

Don't take these things to your heart. Only someone that has been touched by infidelity really understands and knows that these things are NOT the reasons why affairs happen.
It's all about "honesty".................

bb

Should I expose affair and if so how. One reason is she has told everyone who will listen what a horrible person I am.

I really dread this but I am doing the once unthinkable and contacting resources to have a paternity test done on my daughter and I.

Are you serious OZZ, you think there could be a possibility she might not be yours? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Well if you question it, by all means get the paternity test done. I don't blame you.

Blessings,
Lady

Unfortunately, yes. The couple I spoke with said that his cousin is "out there". He will speak to him tonight and ask him in a round about way about my wife. He said he would then call me back because he does not condone this. It appears I have an unlikely ally in the OM's cousin. I think he sincerely wants me to know the truth.

What is this? Ozz is taking back his thread? How rude! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Seriously, I apologize for my part in having hijacked it for a while, pardner.

As for the paternity test, you don’t have any option. You need to know on so many levels, at least one of them a legal one. If the worst possible scenario in your marriage comes to pass, you may need the information when child support is being discussed. Another reason is a need to know how long the betrayal has been going on and how deep it has gone.

BTW, I just heard a radio commercial yesterday from a lab/company advertising a one-week turnaround on a DNA test for paternity. I didn’t catch the name or phone number, I don’t even know if they serve your locality, but such services exist. I suspect a Google search would turn up a lot of them.

I probably have a different take from most people on this website on exposure under the conditions you describe. Your wife is humiliating you publicly, blaming you for things you haven’t done, insinuating you are crazy, etc. To me, it’s not retribution if you expose and correct the opinions of your friends, coworkers, acquaintances, and family members on both sides. Frankly, for your good mental health, I say you need to expose. You can’t possibly feel good about yourself if you’re having to grind your teeth in frustration all the time.

Another reason to expose is that there is so much…let’s call it “toro poo poo”…going on in your world. A little exposure will let in some fresh air and a more definitive picture might develop.

BUT, be prepared. In view of the possibility of a four-year pattern of adultery and misconduct, you might not “like” what you discover when that picture begins to take shape. There are more informed people out here and perhaps they can comment on whether Plan A (or Plan B, for that matter) can/will have any effect on an infidelity that long.

Best wishes for you.

Before I left for work this morning she said she was taking my daughter and moving to her om's house two hours away. It's strange but I did not even try and convince her to stay. It does kind of suck ending things right before New Year's, but I think it was for the best. All in all I think living the life I was living was much harder than her leaving. I did not hug her or show any emotion before I left this morning. I just told her to lock up when she left and that I will be picking my daughter up every other weekend. I confronted her about my daughter and she swore she was mine. That made me feel better but time will tell on that issue. We never spoke about filing for divorce. At first she said she was going for the weekend to her mom's. I told her it was best they stay there until she found a job and got on her feet. I suspect she wanted to use this weekend to see OM and then come home Monday. She packed her and my daughter's things as I was leaving. The main reason I am sad is my daughter being away.

Cool, your daughter can go live with some strange, sleazy man that you have never met. Is he a child molester?

She is actually moving in with her mother and aunt in Alabama.

This is hard but I think living in that situation was much harder.

OZZ, is there some reason why you allowed her to take your daughter in her pursuit of an affair? Your D needs to be in her home in a stable environment. As her father, you have an obligation to protect your daughter.

Does her mother and aunt know that she is having an affair?

Tell your WW that she cannot take your DD. If your let her take your DD without a fight, you will regret this decision for the rest of your life.

Take a look at eemd’s thread to get a glimpse of your future if you continue on this route.

I hope you do the right. If not for yourself, do it for your DD.

Her mother knows about the affair Melody but not sure about the aunt. Where they are moving to is just across the state line about ninety minutes away.

Why is your DD being snatched from her home and her daddy?

She says she can't live in this situation anymore. I also feel it may be better for her not to live with both parents that us fighting around her.