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but I am terrified that he is going to let me have it when he gets here... So by being nice and chatty he pulled all the right strings to be allowed to come over. Now you're in knots worring. Who's in control. <sigh> You just INSIST on doing this the hard way, don't you? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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Let him do most of the talking..
Be calm..as everyone else is saying
REMEMBER: YOU HAVE THE PLAN..HE DOESN'T...
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Daffy Duck and Bugs Bunny. Cartoon reference. You need the cartoon network. Today. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
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There are people in the world so hungry, that God cannot appear to them except in the form of bread.
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Mimi has good advice there. You don't really have to say much of anything. I like that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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There are people in the world so hungry, that God cannot appear to them except in the form of bread.
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Don't argue with him. If he starts on something, change the subject.
Stay calm.
Clear the history on your computer. In case he gets nosey.
Stay calm.
Are you looking your best?
Is the house tidy?
Relax, don't let him push your buttons.
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Don't let him bait you into a fight! Be cool as a cumcumber.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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CAN YOU SAY MASOCHIST???
Just kidding, but even my therapist told me somthing along the lines...
HA HA - it makes me stringer I think... I like to build from the ground up. If I am torn down completely then I can build one even better than the first one...
YEAH _ Take that WH!!!
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He'll be fishing around to find out what you know..what you plan to do...any excuse to justify the A to himself and to continue with it...
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PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO CLEAR THE HISTORY ON MY COMPUTER. I TRIED THE OTHER DAY AND COULD NOT FIGURE OUT HOW TO DO IT..
I DID THE HISTORY PART, BUT THE STUFF ON THE ADDRESS LINE I COULD NOT GET RID OF...
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Don't let him bait you into a fight! Good advice since he WILL try to do this! Mainly let HIM talk and LISTEN! You'll be extremely suprised how much you can learn when you really pay attention and LISTEN!
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house is tidy, I always look good! well - I look okay right now, but I am gorgios on the inside and it shows on the outside... I am strong and powerful. i know the truth - he doesn't. I am in control, he isn't. I can do this!!! I will do this... This is a small battle in the war and I plan on winning this one!!!
OH YEAH - LORD WHERE IS THIS COMING FROM???
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Alison,
This will be one of those critical meetings.
You can blow it sooooo easliy. You're going to have to be on your toes.
Be strong.
Think of someone trying to hurt your DD. Think of how you would react. You would be strong and protective. You wouldn't give that person an inch.
That's how you'll have to be tonight with YOURSELF. You are going to have to protect your boundaries and control your emotions so that you can protect yourself and the information you have.
Don't budge on this one. We're all behind you.
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There are people in the world so hungry, that God cannot appear to them except in the form of bread.
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Don't think exposure is a good idea? Go here...
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I know active listening - maybe I will start that tonight. Just kidding - I will do it.. Like I said before - I AM IN CONTROL - he is not!!!
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The address line will go away once you turn the computer off and then back on if you have cleared the history.
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OMG - you guys are amazing. I would not be here without you and I am so thankful to you for giving me strength and positive thoughts, and I am so proud of myself for doing it and being strong and being in control. I never know how good it felt!!!
Lord it finally feels good to be in control of my life - after 31 years... WOW - I like it, don't think I'm gonna turn back now!!!
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On my computer,,
I click on start,,brings up a menu with "Control Panel" on it,,click on that
Find "Internet Options',,click on that
Find "clear History" and Temporary Internet Files,,,,,click on those.....
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Han Solo to Luke Skywalker: "That's great kid. Now don't get cocky!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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There are people in the world so hungry, that God cannot appear to them except in the form of bread.
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YOU SOUND GREAT!! I'M SURE YOU LOOK GREAT!!
YOU ARE A GODDESS!!!!
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Alison, believe that you are in control. Let it sink in to your psyche and live it. You ARE in control. In a sense, you have to quit letting yourself react to every new phone call, email, text message, et al. You're trying to parse each one, wondering how positive this word is, how negative that one is, what did he mean by this...etc., etc. You get false encouragement from a kind word and plummet into the depths when he’s cross. It’s not healthy to do that, though it is human, and it’s hard as the devil to stop doing it. You’re worrying yourself sick about this and you can’t afford that…if not for your own, then for your baby’s sake.
Let what your husband has to say tonight roll off you. Chances are it won’t make sense anyway and trying to find the logic in it is just going to make you crazy. I don’t get the ducks…rabbits thing either, but take some deep breaths and get ready for a madman to come calling. There has to be one adult among the three of you. Looks like your elected. Hang tough, lady.
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Prepare yourself. He will be pumping for information, while all the time denying that there is an affair.
I think you need to tell him that you are really in a state of shock, and would rather not talk about relationships.
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