Wow - that was a lot of info to think about... I am sure you are probably right about all of that. The cll phones are not company issued, but they do get reimbursed for part of the cell bill. I will there was a way I could just give someone the email addresses and get all correspondance between those email addresses -- Is that possible??

Do you know his e-mail address? His passwords - alot of people always use the same password. My H had 2 that is how I got into his e-mails. I just typed his e-mail name and address and put his password in and bingo. Not all of the showed up but I had 7 of them.

Alison -

Okay, no pressure from me. Just put it in the back of your little mind that once the affair ends (and it will), they can never work together again. That is just one of the consequences of married people stepping over the line with someone at work.

An affair is like an addiction, and there has to be no contact at all forever.

Try to rest up and enjoy how strong you have become. I'm certain there are things going on behind the scene that we know nothing about.

Ditto.

I would have to get into their work emails because my H does not have internet at his home, so I doubt they would contact that way... How would I go about that?? Could a PI do it??

Hacking into their work email would be illegal without a court order. No way for you to do that Alison.

Alison, don't confuse the will of God with your own feelings that are charged with fear and fatigued emotions. God is not a feeling you might get. If you are waiting for a feeling to hit you to expose them at work, you will be waiting for a long time, because that is not how God works. He expects you to use your mind and act deliberately to do the right thing, not wait for some mood or feeling. Rather, he communicates with us through his word, and this is what it says:

Ephesians 5:11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them.

The news notified this area that floods were coming and to get out. As the water rose, a police officer stopped at this man's house and warned him that he had to leave because of rising water. The man said, "I'm trusting in the Lord." As the waters rose, another man in a boat paddled by and told the man that he needed to get out now. The man said, "I'm trusting in the Lord." The water rose so high that the man had to sit on his roof. A helicopter came by and they yelled to the man that they were lowering a rope to pull him to safety. The man said, "I'm trusting in the Lord." It wasn't long until the man drown and when he got to Heaven he said to the Lord, "I was trusting in You where were You?" And the Lord said, "Who do you think sent the police officer, rescue squad and helicopter."

The point of the story is Alison, you say you're trusting your feelings and waiting on the Lord. Could He already be here with you using the voices on MB?

I think you're biggest regret at the end of this is that you didn't contact HR. I always pay close attention with Brit'sBrat posts. Wisdom lives there. (as well as Melody Lane, believer and Pep..pay close attention)

Thanks for the vote of confidence!!!!

Agree, Brit'sBrat is giving you OUTSTANDING ADVICE, Alison. You are getting the benefit of her professional expertise and I don't think it is any accident that you just happened upon her. She is an attorney who specializes in harrassment cases and knows what she is talking about.

...and I'm a Texan (okay not native but got here as fast as I could) too!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Regards,

BB

Great post Mel.

You too Brit...I guess. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Do you think there is a way that I can call his work, not mention any names, but put the suspision on them??

One of your best features, of course! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

GOD BLESS TEXAS!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

huh?

Another question: what else could a PI do for me besides the video taping thingy??? Is there anything else I could get???

Depends....again, does your WH work for a large company. There is a very strong possibility they have a Helpline/Hotline that you can call, anonymously, give the information and, then, the company will investigate.

Regards,

BB

Say something like, "evidence has popped up placing two of your MD managers Fraternizing. I will not mention any names, but I would like to know what would be done about it"

Yes - quite a big company...

If you call, you have to give them enough information for them to start an investigation. If my company got this kind of call, we would respond that we need more specific information re: what is meant by "fraternization" and names of the two employees or their specific work sites.

Allison, if you would like to e-mail me offline with the name of your WH's employer, my e-mail address is [email]legalbeagle86@hotmail.com.[/email]

Regards,

BB