I think we've all had those feelings. It's part of that roller coaster ride. I finally resolved those feelings (in time) in the knowledge that while God provides an out for the BS He is truly the God of restoration and His will is for reconcilliation. He takes us back when we turn on Him. Each and every time. Took me a while to get to that point. You don't have to make that decision today. Just food for conversation at another time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I will let you know what I decide...

Food for thought: H got extra keys to his place and I asked him for a set "just in case" and he would not give them to me... I believe that he will give them to OW for maybe a lunchtime quicky... This will give me plenty of opportunity to catch him in the act... I want proof for my own 2 eyes.. I think I said before I am a bit of a Masochist, but in order for me to move on or not, I must have it...

Whether or not you want that man in your life, exposure will raise your self-respect back where it belongs. You can decide after the affair ends whether you want to give him another chance.

Like others here, I regret not exposing.

I was too timid, too ashamed of my H being in love with another woman. All I wanted to do was hide my face.

Will exposure guarantee 100% the breakup of the affair? Maybe not. But most of the betrayed spouses on here who exposed the affair were able to get a second chance and rebuild their marriages.

MB gives you tools. Exposure is like antibiotics. You have to take as directed, finish the prescription, for it to work. Don't just take until you feel a little better.

After exposure, you can expect tantrums, curses, a real blowup. Threats that now the marriage is REALLY done for. That he never realized what a low, sneaky, dirty Birch you were. That is standard. You stay cool and detatched. And wait for your H to make overtures to you.

After exposure, the two waywards will lose the excitement of the "Big Secret" that it's just the two of them, that they are special. If a colleague frowns at them they will wonder whether they are being signalled disapproval. If by chance they aren't invited to have lunch with others in the department, it could feel like shunning. If another co-worker doesn't return a phone message the same day, it could feel awkward. Exposure will work on them. The shabbiness will replace the shimmer. Fog will dissipate.

You are a woman. And it is your prerogative to change your mind. Exposing just doubles your options. And it's better to be the one being pursued, than the one who is left behind.

So I just had the nerve to call the 888 number that Brit got for me, but I believe that it was a phony number (not on Brits part). I want to call the hotline... Darn it...

Allison,

You have mail....

BB

Really doesn't surprise me as the person who gave me the number was, shall we say, "not all there?" It took several minutes for him to even understand what I was asking for!!! I sent you an e-mail with details on another way to go about this - call the Office of the President of the company...

Regards,

BB

Um - I know the president of the company I have met him... Not sure I want to go that route... Still waivering... What I was going to do was first find out what would happen to the employees involved in the affair -- baby steps...
I am still terrified about this...

OMG - I am losing it. I havent cried in days and now I cannot stop.... I just saw some quote with the word "baby" in it and I lost it - this is what H calls OW...

OMG - I hate him and what he has done and is doing and he doesn't even care about me or ou DD...

OMG - I cannot do this - I hate him for making me feel this way... Just when I was feeling stronger and it all comes caving in...

Darn it!!!

It's the roller coaster Alison. Fasten your seat belt and keep your arms in the car. The feeling will pass and be replaced with another one. This is your minds way of purging you of the stress and mental pain.

You're not alone. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> We've done this before. Praying for you.

oohh --- darn it, fluke - I had just stopped crying and then I got your message - BOOOHHOOO - but thank you... I swear you guys are so amazing. I so much need support now and I feel I am only getting it here..

Thank You!!
Alison

Even though you are hurt and angry, your crying also says that you still care deeply for your WH.

You really need to expose at their work. It will only be more upsetting knowing they are together in CA this weekend.

OMG - remember my stake out night... Well just found the credit card statement and it has a charge from a restaurant in her town... What do I do with this information???

save it for your lawyer -safe place OK

I was wrong - wrong sale date. this was a boys night out and i spoke to his wife so I know he was with him...

Darn it - I thought he would be dumb anough to do that...

Do you know where the company's personnel will be staying in CA? Ever think of flying out here, on your own with the baby, and having a conversation with your H in his hotel room? Hmmm?

Where in CA, btw?

Yep. Where in California? I'm between LA and San Diego.

I can only imagine Believer showing up to "deliver" a small bouquet of flowers with a nice note attached from you at say 11:30 pm one of these nights. Of course it would help if she were to know he was actually in his room before she went to such effort but I'd love to see his reaction after he finds out she is a friend of yours. I am salavating at the thought of MB busting a wayward like this and Believer is the perfect one to do it.

Mr. W

And I'm in L.A.

Please let me tell you a true story. I worked for an attorney who represented an up and coming celebrity. The celeb got a woman pregnant during a ONS. Then he dumped her. Didn't return her ph calls, etc. Went out of town on tour. The woman did not take this dumping like a lady. Here is what she did:

Found out where he was staying, got on a plane and confronted him in the hotel lobby. Loudly. Cussing, indignant, furious. Created a huge scene. Guess what my boss (His attorney) said to me when he recounted the incident: "That woman had balls! She wasn't taking 'no' for an answer. I was really impressed."

Security had to be called on this woman. But the celeb got put on notice, he had better respect the mother of his child, because she would insist on it - publicly, loudly.

Now, where is their hotel again? email me: d0mest1cg0ddess@verizon.net

WAIT! WAIT! Let me call the TV show "Cheaters" so they can videotape it. Oh heck, they don't go out of Texas. Believer, can you please take a few snapshots? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

We could set up the NationWide MB A-Busting Network. Put the call out to the local MB "Agent" and have those flowers delivered - no fuss, no muss. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />