Sign me up, Fluke. Can I be the official photographer for this district? Please? I have a beautiful digital camcorder that has infrared capability and a digital still camera that can produce beautiful 8X10 printed photos suitable for framing.

Awesome...maybe we could insert a couple condoms within the flowers as an added "service". In fact, if any one needs this service in Detroit, I'd be glad to help. I'd probably turn on the video on my cell phone and tape the whole encounter and post a link to it for all to see.

Mr. W

p.s.- I had an idea last spring when my wife was at a hotel with OM unbeknownst to me, but suspected. I thought I could probably offer the front desk clerk $100 sent to his/her home address if they could obtain a camera phone picture of my wife with OM and email it to me. This would never work at a big hotel but a small hotel/motel maybe.

Funny Funny - love it... They are staying at the Hilton Santa Ana.... Send em' I will send you a check. I will even tell you the name her room is under...

That is way more my style... Subtle yet NASTY!!!

Allison
I've followed this crazy, lightning speed thread since day one. I have not given my .02 because you had so many wise people giving you advice. I am by no means an expert. But I'll tell you how I see it.

If you do get enough nerve to expose to H work, it basically leaves all your options open. It helps to end this A with this OW. It could possibly be the last straw for the A. It opens your H's eyes open to the woman that you are...strong, capable and determined... a gem to hold on to. He may not have seen you in this light before.

At first it will make him angry, but IF he comes to his senses sooner hopefully than later, he might actually thank you some day for fighting for him and your M. It could happen. At this point you will still have the choice to stay and rebuild or not. If the A doesn't end soon, you could lose that option altogether. He might stay with OW or your love for him might diminish to the point of no return.

I guess what I'm trying to say is give yourself all the options. Don't decide anything now. You can always decide to not recover your M. By exposing to his work you are actually keeping all of your options open. By not exposing, some of your options are slowly being taken away. But enough about that, you've heard all that before.

What I will say is that my WH is nothing like the H I see and have seen in the last 6 months. He is a totally different person now than during the A. Matter of fact, he is better in every aspect than ever in our relationship. He is truly a new man. You might find that if and when the A ends, your WH could become a new improved version. One that you never, ever saw before. You really might want to give it a chance. I never would have guessed how my H has changed. Yours might too. Help him find his way home. Do all you can to end this A. There is hope.

Ok, but I get Western Michigan from Cadillac down to the state line and as far east as say...Lansing? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I'll coordinate from the home office. Longhorn - you're in charge of the western district. Parcel it out as you see fit.

See the new thread I started.

Thank You Michele - I am still thinking about it. I do get closer by the day. Please understand that I am not sure what I want. I would also like to hear what H has to say to me this evening - he says he has a lot on his mind (yeah - I bet and she is a nasty bonde (black roots) b*tch...)

We will see. I am going to Plan A and 180 him this evening and see how it goes. I have been studying up and I am prepared... I am going to let him do all the talking. As I said before, People say a lot if you just shut up for a minute...

Well, believer - if you are up to it, I will help as best I can, but On Friday nights they all usually hang out at the hotel bar until about 12 or 1am... They have meetings all saturday, then dinner with company and then they go out all night... BOOK EM' Believer!!

Okay, Friday night, hotel bar.

"Cheaters" - Believer style

You've got to take a video camera or something. You could buy one at Radio Shack and return it the next week but a concealled camera of some kind would be awesome.

Mr. Wondering

I have a video/digital camera. It doesn't take real good pictures in the dark though. I may have to shine a spotlight on them. Would that be too obvious?

BTW, they may not be carrying on in front of all the other co-workers so you still might need to deliver flowers later in the evening to catch them "visiting" each others rooms alone.

Here are some thoughts Allison - you could call WH HR office say in young voice you are doing research for a college paper and would like to know there company policy on infidelity in the work place -say you are gathering info for a paper.

Now as far as taking pictures in the dark - how about askingsomeone to take your pic and then stand in front of the cheaters at the bar and ask them to turn on the lights a little brighter?? Allison how will Believer know he is your WH ?

Fluke I will take all of Pasco county up thru CItrus Conunty plus where I live Hernando. My Wh's OW lives up north of me. Still waiting to see her for the first time. Hehehehe. I will be going to the next retirement party. I know what I will say to her - Oh H has spoken so much about you I feel like I know you already. He always said you were an angel -darling! her e-masil name was angeldarling - gag

Oh Oh I have a great one. As some of you know how about this one. My son is gay. How about having a gay guy show up at bar and going up to your H in front of OW and saying well Hi. Where have you been you naughty boy? You were supposed to call me next time you came to town. He could have a couple of friends with him and they could swear for him he was taelling the truth to OW. How would you like to see her face after that?

I thought of that one. I do want to know the policies before I do anything so I think that is what I will do tomorrow. Unless someone else wants to do it for me??? Yes - I am a whimp - I know it, but as long as it gets done, right..

Oh - and I can send believer a picture of the both of them -

OH - does "Cheaters" only do like one area of the country or do they go all over. I have only seend it once and I think it was in the LA area, so I wasn't sure if they would come to MD???

Just a thought!! A funny one which I would love to do - but none the less - a funny one..

I forgot to tell you all of this - when we were in Mexico my H's OW and I got along very well - totally drank together and all that crap - I think she was trying to make me think she was my friend or something...

OK - duechebag is on his way. will inform you if anything comes up - LORD I hope it does...

OMG - BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD.....
We just go t in the biggest fight od our entire relationship... He is accusing me of conspiring with OWH to have him killed... He is crazy. I told him to leave. I told him not to come to see DD tomorrow or I would have him taken away... LB's all over the place. He wants to kill me and I want to kill him HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP

First thing - calm down...he's gone, so you're are safe for right now.

Now, why does he think you are conspiring with OWH? What did he say is happening?

BB

Wow, so he's feeling a little paranoid?

he said that OWH said he wanted my H dead and that I agreed... He left and he will not talk with me and I am freaking...