Santa Ana is far from Santa Clara.

There are Hiltons and Hyatts in other nearby towns, but I don't see Santa Ana.

Ia there any way you can get an itinerary for this trip emailed to you from his office?

Call his office and say H forgot to give you his travel itinerary, which you need, as the baby is sick. Tell them to fax or e-mail it to you right away. Do this now before they go home.

Their corporate office is in Irvine. i think whereever the hotel is in Santa something near irvine...

All of those towns are right together. There are hotels in Orange, Glendale, Long Beach and several other nearby towns, both Hyatt and Hilton.

Alison222,

2x4 - You responses remind me of my mother. She is a loving, wonderful person, but doesn't demand respect from men. She is with jerk #3 today. My dad cheated on her, he was demanding & controlling, left her for OW (1/2 his age). She have moved on, but harbored resentment for my dad for 23 years (you don't want to do that). That is something to consider here.

But, this is not my main point. My mother ended up picking H #2 who was just as controlling & demanding and didn't repect my mom either. She responded the same way with him (passive) and that marriage ended in D. Then, she picks guy #3 who is the same type & she still is doing the same things. It's a repeat because SHE HAS NEVER TAKEN CONTROL OF HER LIFE & DEMANDED RESPECT. That is your choice today.

You are here, but do NOT want to follow the MB plan. You want to have someone tell you what you want to hear. You give excuses why you cannot call the company. My mother's voice is ringing in my ears. You can call the company & expose (as a wife & mother that demands respect from your H), but you REFUSE to do it. You have made all types of claims to stay in your warm, comfortable passive state of mind. You want someone to rescue you - you want to stay the victim.

The question to yourself should be: What do you want to teach your DD? That women don't deserve respect or loyalty? What do you want for your future? A repeat of this (could be different man, same situation)? You have to work on you which means getting out of YOUR comfort zone & doing what is right - for you & your daughter. This goes way beyond whether you want this man or not because you are going to end up repeating this if you don't work on you, get out of your comfort zone, stand up for yourself & take your life back.

Trust me on this - I have seen it first hand. You don't want to end up in the same situation over & over because you refuse to stand up & do what's right. In the end, it's your CHOICE, but know, you are MAKING A CHOICE to continue to be a doormat & you will be treated with the respect you demand. Do you want your DD growing up to be a doormat too?

Please, think about it. You only get one life & you cannot get these moments back.

I agree COMPLETELY with Want2B.

There is a Hyatt in Irvine.

Realtor - She IS the top producer. even my H said that he would get fired before her. even though the company adores my H... I do believe that she has sexually harassed him, but I have no proof since he never told me anything.
I do want to get her fired.

You do realize that they cannot continue to work together if your marriage is going to survive the A. One of them will have to leave. Sales? If your H is good at it, he'll have another job offer before he cleans out his desk.

Don't be afraid. Think of how ow is laughing at you right now.

I want to add to my point about DD being a doormat. I asked you this because my sister & I have both ended up in marriages with men like our father. I never even had those passive tendencies, but somehow, here I am. We are both struggling in our marriages now because I believe my mother didn't show us how to have a good relationship. We really needed that. You have the opportunity to make that difference in your DD's life. Do it now so she doesn't suffer through something like this?

Want: I agree with you as well, and my therapist actually asked me what kind of role model do I want to be for my daughter. I am here fighting. I exposed more today.

I am working on myself. At least I am trying. I want to be the powerful woman I was when H met me. I believe that my self esteem has fallen also because of being a SAHM. Not that I devalue what it takes to be a SAHM, but I have always worked very hard and this is still a big adjustment for me... NOT to mention the fact that my H tells me he works his a** off while I SIT AROUND!!!!!

I mean - are you kidding me. Who in their right mind says that to the mother of his child. when his mom raised him - he just disrespected us both!!! NICE GUY - I tell ya!!

OMG - YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!!!! SOMEBODY PLEASE CALL FOR ME!!!

DO IT DO IT DO IT... THAT B*TCH WILL NOT BE LAUGHING AT ME.

Just know that I cannot do it. I will provide names and numbers, but I cannot make the call...

But I want to know if anything will be done about it. And if so - won't they need proof? And if anything is done about it - what will it be??

Listen to yourself. "Call for me?"

What HR executive/CEO, or any other business person in their right mind would even waste 10 seconds of their precious time taking a call from an anonymous stranger to report anything?

No one would.

They would hang the phone up so fast. Scratch that. The secretary would never put the call through.

It ha to go like this:

"Hello. This is Mrs. A. The wife of Mr. A. I need to speak to Mr. Head of HR/CEO."

"Mr. HR/CEO? I need to make you aware of an ubacceptable situation in your company. Traci the Skank has sexually pursued my husband for the last 12 months, and they are having a full blown affair"

"This is causing serious harm to our family and I want to know what you intend to do about it."

Then, shut up and listen.

OMG - I cannot do that... They will think I am crazy...Someone could say they were me...

I can't - I am too emotional - I will break down and cry and then they will think I am crazy!!!

Stop. Are you in the seventh grade? Because this is what seventh graders do, call and pretend to be someone else.

If you really want to ruin this b****'s weekend, not to mention her plan to steal your H, your life, call.

If you really do not mind the idea of your DD calling this ow her step-mother, then sit back and wring your hands.

All of the employees I spoke to said that nothing will happen - that they just don't care - and they are all "boyz" and this kind of crap goes on and is just looked over...

Alison -

You can do it. You CAN do it. You have tons of MB's here standing behind you. Be the strong woman that you are.

Kim