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Atomic, my H exposed my A to the OMW in a single phone call. It lasted half an hour and she did believe him. He didn't say he would call again and I don't think she would have wanted him to. I waited most of the rest of the day in a state of panic as I thought she would call me (we knew each other years ago) but she didn't. It was a slightly unusual exposure as it was after the A had ended but I was still wavering and my H knew I was on the verge of contacting the OM again. He was also pretty sure the OM was going to contact me again and he wanted to make sure that wasn't going to happen. I wasn't angry, just knew it was all finally over, but if he'd exposed during the A, I'd have been furious.
I really think you should respect the OMW's wishes. If she doesn't want to know any more I feel you shouldn't tell her any more. That's between them now. The rest is just between you and your W.
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wow, that is a good point, AD! Her H could have intercepted the email altogether and the OM called WW to tell her H to knock it off.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I dont think he did because she lives in a different state and i sent it to her work email address, I know he is here right now because he works here and the holidays are over and he doesnt go there much anyway, I am pretty sure she forwarded him each of my emails which I think is unfortunate because she would have been better off using the information instead of giving him the chance to rebuke it. But It seems he is pretty upset and told my xw not to call him anymore, but that might not last long.
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But It seems he is pretty upset and told my xw not to call him anymore, but that might not last long. Darn, sounds like your exposure caused some conflict in the affair. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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