Good morning ladies,
As a FWW I just wanted to say hi to all of you and thank Dorry for starting this thread! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I think all you FWW’s are doing a great job in your efforts to overcome the past and by moving forward in you personal and marital recoveries and of course a thread like this can provide additional encouragement and support. It’s also normal to go through ‘setbacks’ and feelings of discouragement from time to time. Just sharing experiences and expressing feelings can be helpful as well and assist one in doing some more introspection and soul-searching.
I want to share something with your ladies today (I’ve posted it on these boards before) which is still of great sentiment and value to me about life in general. This ‘reading’ was also helpful and served as a regular reminder to me especially during early recovery while I was still in the cycle of having very negative thoughts & feelings about myself and during the times I was trying to make sense and find 'meaning' & purpose out of my wrong choices and negative experiences of the past:
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~SOMETIMES~Sometimes people come into your life
and you know right away that they were meant to be there -
to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson,
or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.
You never know who these people may be –
(possibly your roommate, neighbor, professor,
long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger),
but when you lock eyes with them,
you know at that very moment
they will affect your life in some profound way.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime…
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person:
When someone is in your life for a REASON -
It is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
and/or to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are!
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part,
or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered.
And now it is time to move on.
Then people come into your life for a SEASON -
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season…
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons:
things you must build upon
in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use
in all other relationships and areas of your life.
The people you meet who affect your life,
and the success and downfalls you experience,
help to create who you are and who you become.
Even the bad experiences can be learned from.
In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.
Sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible,
painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection
you find that without overcoming those obstacles
you would have never realized your potential,
strength, willpower, or heart.Everything happens for a reason.
Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck.
Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness,
and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be,
life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere.
It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.
Life is an unceasing process of change.
The Bible say: "To everything there is a season,
and a time to every purpose under the sun.
A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant,
and a time to pluck up that which is planted..."
And just as the seeds of the poppy fall back to the earth,
only to flourish yet again, so too,
will the proverbial circle of life touch our own existence.
Hardships may indeed befall us,
but the ebb and flow of life energy prods us to survive.Whether we are experiencing the death of a loved one,
an ended relationship, or
grief for the past,as incomprehensible as it may seem, life does go on.
Troubling circumstances and heart-wrenching situations
may inwardly tear at our heart and cause us to feel like crumbling,
but let us not forget that even in cemeteries grow flowers, grass and trees. Death, be it in the loss of friend or loved one,
or mourning for a relationship or friendship failed,
indeed has its sting, but
as long as Christ promises us hope,
life shall not cease. God's grace is as a healing hand.As does the sweet scent of the poppy linger in the air,
the warm memories and love for those we have lost
will remain always safe in our hearts.
If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart,
forgive them - for they have helped you learn about trust
and the importance of being cautious to when you open your heart.
If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally,
not only because they love you, but because in a way,
they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.
Make every day count.
Appreciate every moment and take from those moments
everything that you possibly can
for you may never be able to experience it again.
Talk to people that you have never talked to before,
and actually listen.
Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high.
Hold your head up because you have every right to.
Tell yourself you are a great individual
and believe in yourself,
for if you don't believe in yourself,
it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish.
Create your own life and then go out
and live it with absolutely no regrets.
Life is about living, and that is why God offered us His Son,
so that we may have eternal life.
A life without Christ will rob one of salvation,
but with Him, all things are possible![/color]
