DG- Your WW is doing everything text book just like mine did.
I agree with LM about the HR issue. Your WW is bluffing about HR approval.
Be careful about how much detail you give out when exposing. TO MUCH can cause major damage towards rebuilding your marriage. Don't give all the details.
Also keep in mind that exposure works like a bomb going off on the affair. Drop the biggest bombs where it hurts OM the most. His parents, family, friends, girl friend or wife.
Then save the smaller bombs for the people you want you wife going to for help once she realizes her mistakes.
If you give all the gory details to your wifes parents, family and friens, she will NOT turn to them for advice about your marriage. I agree exposure is needed, but spare the details from people that you will need to help later.
Keep in mind teaming up will not help you much either.
Exposure will most likely cause your WW to run right to OM and not home to you. She is fogged out of her mind right now. She is not thinking at all. When the light of day hits and the bombs drop, she will run to OM and they will join together to fight to keep fantasy island intact as the bombs hit.
This is all part of the process my friend. She will be spitting mad at you. Don't worry.... It will not last long.
Also, I seen where you wrote she wants to see if it will work with OM.
First, mine wanted the test drive too.... DO NOT GIVE IN...
Make a plan and develope a mantra... Part of that is never giving up on your marriage and belief that you two can have a great marrige together. She will press you to agree to giving in and giving her permission to be with OM. That way she can go be with him and not feel so bad towards you. Do not give her that permission. Make her carry that choice and don't make it easy on her to make either.
Mine asked me for a 21 day test drive. You throwing her out also gives her permission to go to OM. DO NOT DO IT.
Second-Tell her that she already promised you in front of god to only give you a chance. Where is it written that a marriage mother should ever consider giving another man a chance other than you...
I have heard the same line of crap.
Mortarman is very good as well as others on here. Do research, read the materials on MB and make a plan before you react to anything. HAVE A PLAN before you do anything.
Good luck and God Bless
