Please pray for my wife... she has left me, possibly for another man. Also please pray for me, as I know that my anger problem has contributed to the problems in our marriage. I am hurting right now, but I will persevere. I keep hoping and praying that my wife and I can be reunited one day, but most of all, I pray that my wife does not continue down this constructive path. She is not the person that she used to be, right now. She is not the person that I married. Please God, bring her back.

I will pray... when did she leave?

So it has been over 10 months now since the divorce. I have gotten much better emotionally but I still have a relapse from time to time about wondering what happened and why. I don't want to forget the hurt in a way because I think it helps me value what is good. Knid of what I hear folks say when they get a terminal illness, they start looking at the small, simple and things that are really precious in life, kids, etc... I don't want to lose that as I get caught up in life. Also many good things I have gained with my routine, healthier living etc... I feel some of these starting to whane as life goes on and more changes occur. I want to "stabilize" and keep growning, not go back to the messed up old life habits. More than anything, I wnat to continue to have that relationship with God I have discovered through all of this.

I know how you feel.

This has been a long journey. Why can't I get this whole think out of my mind... I guess I am still recovering, also the shock and trama of it all and getting on in life. I am thankful that I had many things going for me that others have to fight with for many months after. I had a house, my kids, and most bills seperated or worked out so I did not have to fight and lanquish over many issues. This was a good thing. I will continue to count blessings and stay focused. I am really physically tired now and so am looking at things more negative than I would normally. I will go get some sleep. Thank you Lord for being there with me through all of this.

Well, it has been a long road, but it has been one year (as of 1/17/07) that the divorce was final. It was long but soemtimes seems like the time flew by. I am healing. I still have not heard from nor talk to her although I have seen her from time to time off in the distance. I am not sure what I would do if I ran into her. I often wonder what she is thinking, what turns in her life have occured. I still miss her although I know better than to re invest any time with her. She has many problems and it doesn't take long to sit and think for a while about some of the issues we dealt with and how they ended up. I can't do anything that would change her behaviour. It's like letting a small raft with her in it, go out into the ocean and she is slowly slipping over the horizon where I can no longer see her. She will disappear soon for ever. and that's a good thing. It was hard to understand that before.

Wow DP, it's been a year and you still feel like that....I find it scary. My wife and I will be starting the Legal Separation process after February....there's an 8 mile run that she says she's focusing on (I'll be doing it with her) and wants to separate after that.

It will be separation till divorce. I'm not sure how I'm going to feel after that, I have already been hurt by her in November when she wanted to get separated...then divorced, blaming me for keeping her from her dreams and goals and not treating her the way she wanted to be treated. She won't give me another chance.

All I can do is live....trying not to regret...trying not to think of her having sex with the "next guy". She said she'd rather be alone than be unhappy with me. I'm not sure what the future holds for "us" as far as chances of reuniting later on, but we've been together 14 years, married for 10 with 3 children. She chooses to leave me without giving me the god given right as her "husband" to make things right. She'd rather give someone else with a "Clean slate" to get a chance to "treat her right".

I've never cheated on her and never hit her, but I do admit to emotionally abandoning her and unknowingly keeping her from finishing her persuit in getting a colledge degree. I hope that she'll one day take me back. I've talked to a few divorced husbands who's wives left them for emotional abandonment only to have them want them back after 5 years.....wierd, very wierd.

It's been one year 2 months and 3 days - I have been occasionally driving by her house (our old house). I see her vehicle parked now and then in the driveway. It's on the way home... I drive through the town I had lived in just for the memories - look at the park my daughetrs and hers use to play in - wonder how she is doing now - not to hope for bad things, but just wonder if things are better for her - I can't ever bring myself to talk to her again, I can't trust her now. That is gone. I would always wonder if she were lying. I don't cry anymore - I did have one nightmare about a month ago - all of that bad stuff came in the dream, the crying and pleading for her to not end this and to bring it back together. But that was a one time dream otherwise it has been months - I have been doing a lot at work, doing so much more better than I had ever dreamed. I feel good about accomplishments, stability with my kids, just settling in and have familiar things in my life on a daily basis... a good routine, healthier, stronger, wiser ...