Dani,

I've followed you all along. Look how many people do--how many care and support you. You are loved beyond knowing.

Why do you give away your power and hurt yourself? Are you dwelling with ex in mind because you chose him and are berating yourself? Not trusting yourself to choose? You had to go through what you went through to get where you are today. Don't lose those lessons. Learning isn't dwelling--it is taking action to protect yourself because you're worth it. Leave them to their fate. Nothing that happens with your ex or OW will tell you that you were right to divorce. You know it was the right thing to do. You were unused to taking care of yourself, filtering your self into the equation. Don't let that lesson go and have to learn it all over again.

Don't give your power away.

Take care of yourself, protect your heart, let go the anger. Dig out all the resentments you created and the anger of what was done to you. You are whole, lovable and worthy. You just are.

Take true care,
LA

Marci's profile says she's 33, she looks 53.

Just get her and your X out of your thoughts - they will lose all power over you, if you don't let them have it.

Good luck, Dani, and keep us updated - I get worried about you when you are away from the board for very long.