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I don't even know what will give me closure. If she was going to give me closure, she probably would have 2 days ago.

I have a feeling this will not give you closure. I don't have much experience with this....it just seemes closure comes with time, with accepting the situation. When you are ready to let go, and sometimes, you have to tell yourself to let go, as much as you don't want to.

I have the same desire to talk to H 'one last time' but I don't. I really don't see what he can say to me that will somehow make me accept the situation faster. I am glad I talked to him back in Dec., it was really our one talk where I was ready to listen to his side, no matter how painful, and he told me all. It was so painful to listened yo , I cried as we spoke on the phone, but I nevertheless asked the hard questions.

But now, as much as I would want to have another talk again, I know he will tell me the same things. If he had something different to say, he would come to me and tell me.


At the end it is your decision whether to go after her one more time.......I just think you should keep in mind that you are very likely not going to get closure, it will open the wound again......When I went to talk to H, I had no idea what he was thinking, so I got info that I did not have at all, that gave me a better understanding......Do you think that she will tell you something that you don't know, do you think she will tell you something that will give you a better understanding......

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