Thanks believer. I did tell my daughter that a party is something I can't handle right now. I also told hubby no way. They both think I'm being "chlidish".

I talked to my daughter last night and explained that as long as she's treating her father normally, allowing him to use her for a sounding board, answering questions he asks her about me and hanging out with him as if nothing has changed, that she is condoning what he is doing with the OW and that she is condoning what he has done to me and her sister. She thinks I'm wrong and seems to be in as much of a fog as he is. I just know that I'm tired of hurting and of watching my 15 year old be hurt.

I am so lost Because life is as brief as it is, let us not waste precious time destroying one another, but rather nourish the strength and encourage the weakness of each other with hope