If you don't mind me asking? Have you decided what you are going to do and when you will do it?

It is very important that Luke's W be made aware of the situation. If it blows up and she is uunaware, she may be so embarrassed that she will not want to work on the M. And while that might look like a blessing to Luke, I seeriously don't believe it would be in God's eyes.

As friends of Luke (and therefore Janet) you need to do things in a manner that will protect their M not just end the A.

The church is a different matter. Like FH pointed out, it will be a sticky situation at best. For you, it's important for you to remember that Jesus is your example, not Luke, not Kathy, not even the Pastor. Also, you are an important part of that church body and God has you there for a reason. And for that reason you need to prayerfully seek God's guidance. With the knowledge you have, what is the right thing to do with it?

Blessings to you.

S&C

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Endures4ever,

Why are you making so many excuses for Luke? Be honest with yourself, are you fond of Luke? Are you somewhat jealous of Kathy? I don't mean to accuse I just want you to be sure about what you're feeling and why you're ignoring his awful part in all of this.

He's a Christian, right? If committing adultery is not enought he has to add committing adultery with another man's wife. And if that's not enough it has to be the pastor's wife.

Does Luke attend church and listen to the pastor's sermon's during all of this? Does he not have a conscience?

You need to talk to LUKE. You have known him all your life. If you are are his friend YOU will talk to him the way Nathan did to David. Be just as indirect as Nathan was. Tell Luke that you want his advice about a man committing adultery and breaking up a family. See what he says.

Hi S&C and MowTin--
I will be going to visit Luke's wife, Janet, tomorrow. I've read the posts and agree that she should not be left unawares. It is not easy talking with her as I stated earlier, but of course you are all right that she needs to know and no one is stepping up to the plate. No, S&C, Luke is just my friend, really and truly! I am not fond of him in any way other than as a long-time friend. You can rest assured on that. But I hear your concern and I do appreciate your honesty.
I will let you know how things turn out in the days ahead. This will not be a 1,2,3 kind of proceedure, I'm sure. I'm very nervous about it. I've never had to deliver news like this to anyone.
You made me think, S&C, about just what my role is according to God? I've asked God to tell me how to handle the information I have. But I don't know what God's answer is. I don't want to be the sonofabitch, but I don't want to protect the affair either. I've wrestled with the questiions 'should I disclose or should I leave it up to the higher-ups who are aware?' and 'If I do nothing at all, will this thing just peter out?' It's not easy to know what is the best solution. So here I am. . .
Leslie

endures,

You might want to take your H with you so that it will be both less intimidating for you and as a way of showing both her that you are not just making trouble.

She knows you and Luke have known each other for a very long time, but you also need to show her you care about all all aspects of his life and that includes her.



Maybe because you are the one God can trust. Esther approached the King knowing full well she could have had her head handed to her. Many here don't really envy your position but know that God ultimately blesses obedience.



Please do.


I know it's easier to speak stuff like this to your enemies than your friends, but when everything is said and done, we hope our friends and see it was for their own good. You are being a friend to their M.[/quote]


You have been given information from many people. Take the stuff that you read here and take it to God. Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself what would you want? I think you will see things pretty clear. It may not take away the nervousness, but it will help you figure out the right thing to do.


You aren't being a sonofabitch; your being Luke and Janet's friend. Probably their only real one of the ones that know. But really in the end do you want man's approval or God's?

I know it isn't easy. Luke will hurt for a while (as long as they are in contact with each other), but once there is No Contact (NC) he will go through withdrawal symptoms and be like someone close to them had died, but he will pull through in time. and hopefully to a better Mthan he had before.

He and Janet will need some counseling for sure. Their M didn't just end up like this, it had time to get this bad. They will need real friends that will continue to love them through this mess. I see that as the role you and your H will play through all of this.

Bless you and go with God tomorrow.

In His Arms.

S&C

S&C, Let me fill you in. Janet had to leave yesterday a.m. to see her mother due to some health emergency, which turned out to be a minor emergency, thank God! But, I'd said I would visit today if we didn't get slammed too badly with the nor'easter. Well, guess what?! We're up to our eyebrows in snow. So I will be seeing her tomorrow evening. I have some MB stuff for her to read through, and I will tell her she can call me anytime she has questions or just wants to cry or scream. Thanks for your words of encouragement!! I appreciate them a LOT!
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