It is my opinion the golden retriever should have one best in show.

celt..

how does this type of post help this issue...

how??

if it is as bad as you say..then report it to the mods...have it deleted and move on..

ARK

I HAD reported it and JustUSS wrote back several thoughtful emails.

Coffee Spew! >>> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /><<<
Opinion noted <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Celt...
that is good..

I just do not see how drawing attention to it here does anything but draw attention and possibly add more fuel to a fire....



ARK

And maybe the spelling bee, too? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

MY opinion is that I am correct to choose NOT to watch any Olympic event after which the participants clutch stuffed animals.

Also, I believe the REAL attraction of the tension filled curling competition is the tailgating.

WAT

On the last day of school in 4th grade, Sunny Burns and I got kicked off the playground, so we went back to the classroom and glued all the desks to the floor and put glue in all the locks of the Teachers Desk which were locked at the time.

That room had all new tile the next year, so I guess it was forced remodeling, and I must say it looked very nice, especially with the new teachers desk.....

I'm sorry, what were we talking about... Oh Yeah, GO TEMPEST.... And JustUss, I still can't look at a toothbrush the same....

It is also my opinion the average canine can spell better than eldente.

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Ditto to what BigK said. That is what I am looking for on the boards.

Not the 1st time a BS has come on board with a bit of a'tude.

Hmmm... I don't think this is about new posters...

I think this is about posters who've been here long enough that they should know better.

I mean c'mon folks, these boards about about healing relationships and finding healthy ways of dealing with pain... not turning that pain onto someone else.

I just do not see how drawing attention to it here does anything but draw attention and possibly add more fuel to a fire....

Oh I don't know, ark... I'm glad attention has (again) been brought. We need to discuss these things.

After all, why do we expose affairs? Because dark things don't thrive in the light.

J

Tempest:

If you are listening, I want to let you know that overall I really appreciate and agree with your post and admonition.

However, if you would, please explain why you refer to the forum as a PLAYGROUND. It means much more to MANY of us than that!!!

MImi..

I am not referencing this post...and its content..
I am referencing reference to a post that poster believes is not nice....

just causes people to go there and add flame in support or unsupport of this or that....

it probably doesn't help the posters that need help...just drags more in to it...

ARK

ARK:

I GOTCHA...

I AGREE with you, too....


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It's a metaphor mimi...I don't think that she means it literally.

Metaphor:

A figure of speech in which a word or phrase that ordinarily designates one thing is used to designate another

It's similar to telling the people that get upset and leave the forum to "take your ball and go home".

It's being used figuratively, not literally.

committed

coddling wollybag fishbanger hot falumpers!

no joke.

i suggest we all get to work reviewing the MB principles and reminding ourselves that they do work...if you have the intestinal fortitude to actually do it and not water it down with 99 justifications or take the entire program ala carte. modify when really necessary, not just because it gets uncomfortable or hard.

thats my unproven but highly valued opinion. vote for me.

Ditto Biggles

WOL

"Be polite to one another, respect one another, or ... you will lose your playground privileges for a week - maybe even longer." The above was an attempt to lighten up the tone of this message - not a threat to ban anyone. It was, apparently, an unsuccessful attempt. I have since edited it out of the post that started this thread.

I have been a member of this forum, a moderator and an administrator. I hate to sound like a broken record (remember them?), but I am a volunteer - a regular person - not a counselor, not an employee of Marriage Builders. Not much different than any other person here. I am not perfect, but I do my best. There are thousands of people posting thousands of messages every week here on the MB Forums. This is the busiest of all of them, and one of the places where problems come up on a regular basis. I can't read all of the posts by all of the people, so I spot check, rely on the moderators and rely on the members to let me know where there are problems.

I also want to make it clear that NO ONE PERSON was intended to be the target of this message. When I want to send a message to a single person, I do so via e-mail, privately. I do not resort to the pettiness that some of you are attributing to me of putting a public message on the forums about someone. If you feel that this message was directed at a specific individual then you are incorrect. There have been quite a number of people, as is stated in my message, that have been disrespectful in many ways to other forum members on this particular forum.

While the primary intent of the MB Forums is to discuss the application of MB principles to marriages, there is nothing wrong with discussing other principles, provided they are intended to encourage the building or recovery of strong and happy marriages. One of the keys to any successful relationship is respect. I simply ask that you all remember that, and consider when you post a response to a person if it is respectful.

Perhaps we need a new forum for 'Respect towards others.'

As a Brit, I'm often a little startled by the 'robust' attitude taken by some posters. I tend to assume that there's some cultural difference in what's considered acceptable...but perhaps it's not cultural? Just rude?

Some posters, I think, see their opinions as defining them as people, and have not yet evolved to the point of seeing opinions as a statement of one's views at the current moment, and capable of alteration given good arguments in favour of another view. So criticism of their opinions is interpreted as attacks on them personally.

And other posters attack a shaky opinion by questioning the basic opinion-forming mechanism of the opinion-holder. This, in my (currently-held and capable of alteration) view, is both unfair and ineffective. To suggest that someone is poorly qualified to hold an opinion makes no sense - NONE of us is the holder of 'absolute truth' (unless God is participating in this forum under a pseudonym), and ALL of us have weaknesses in our judgement-forming faculties.

Politeness does not equate to mincing words and avoiding the hard stuff - it just means not bashing someone with a blunt instrument in order to get them to acknowledge your 'truth'.

TA

THANK-YOU VERY MUCH, TEMPEST!!

Now, I agree with you completely.

It's great to know that you are around....

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I posted this on another thread awhile back...it seems to apply here as well


it seems to me that since this site has helped us to understand and learn about the importance of changing our behaviors, we could use our time here to practice what we've learned